I am turning 32 this year and still have 0 motivation of having children of my own. I find my nieces and nephews adorable in some ways and like to play with and spoil them, but that’s it. I don’t want anything else to do with the trouble of raising them. I find the life i have currently with my wife beautiful, and after 10 years together all I desire is for this life to only continue as peacefully as possible. Children would only be disruptive from everything I’ve seen about parenthood. This seems odd to me, since I feel like biologically am supposed to want children. Does it just click one day, or will I have one out of peer pressure eventually? Edit: Yesterday I saw my nephew (6 months old) shit himself and then continue to jump on this jumpy toy thing and his turd went up to his armpits and my in-laws cleaned it. Every day I’m just convinced not to want to deal with this 😂
You don’t have to. Period. Nothing wrong with being child free
Exactly! Not everybody is meant to reproduce. OP might have a hidden mental/physical/personality issue and this could be nature's way of ensuring only the healthiest of genes/offsprings make it to the next generation. There was an insane crazy post a few days ago here where the couple decided not to have any kids because of climate change! It is good that they don't get to procreate. They would have passed along terrible genes.
Have 1 now so you have someone to take care of you when you're old
You mean for someone to put me in a care facility like most people I know? This seems to be the main reason for people to be pressured into having a child and I’ve thought about it. And have not been convinced.
This is the absolute WORST reason to have a kid. If you think like this you probably should not have kids. First, your motivation is completely selfish. You're putting expectations on some person that doesn't even exist yet. I can only imagine what kind of parent you'd be/are. How do you know if your kid will even want to take care of you? They're not entitled to their own life and decisions? What if they become sick or disabled? I guess you just have a worthless child now cause they can't be your slave. Also if you can't take care of yourself when you're old it's probably your own fault for letting your body decay. Even if it's some sickness you couldn't help, Why would you even want to live like that anyways? If I ever get to that point I'm opting for euthanasia.
Not everyone needs to have kids. Don't fall for the peer pressure. If it's not for you that's perfectly fine. I'm a year older and I feel the same way. Imagining raising a kid sounds like absolute torture to me. I'm perfectly happy just owning dogs. There's still a weird backwards mentality in society that you're "wrong" if you don't want kids but it's beginning to shift now thankfully. I know a number of people also choosing not to have any.
Yep don’t reproduce, let illegal immigration fill the gap of abysmal birth rates.
Making a discussion about whether someone should feel like they need to have kids political (and to a point that is hardly relevant to the conversation). Not even gonna debate this. Seek help.
I was just brushing my teeth and thinking about how much I enjoyed hanging out with my toddler this weekend. I think modern life makes raising kids seem unappealing (by making it hard, isolating us from community, convincing us that self-care or enjoyment is the ultimate aim of life even though that will never fulfill us), but kids are magical. Don’t have them if you don’t want the struggle or have a support system, but it’s not a drag for everyone.
Curious, what do you mean by a support system?
Family nearby that will watch them sometimes. Ability to pay for good daycare or nanny. Supportive boss that won't freak out when you need to wfh to care for a sick kid.
Why did you get married then?
Watching your kid grow up is a bliss and nothing else can match that in your life
Yeah see this seems to be like a hallucination parents experience from a non-parent perspective. Absolute pig stye homes, screaming kids, bratty kids, expense after expense and brother in law smiles at me with the most exhausted look saying “its all worth it” like… its feels like gas lighting yourself… but in reality they must actually believe this
It seems like a hallucination because you don’t feel what they feel towards their kids. Honestly, you will only know it when you have your own kids.
Sir this is a Wendy's
Low T?
Individually, it doesn’t matter if you have kids or not. But as a society, everyone definitely needs to have kids(not too many). Look at what’s happening in Japan. The number of deaths have become 2x the number of births. A vast aging, increasing and mostly not as productive population placing an undue burden on the small, shrinking younger population. Disastrous for their society.
Cool story bro
I am asking a question, are you dense?
Google, maybe you’re dense. Look at your responses.