My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and it's been a shit show from the start. She's super conservative, and I'm more free-spirited. We don't agree on anything. We also don't communicate well. We're constantly arguing, and it never gets resolved. I'm so tired of being unhappy. I feel like I'm in a prison. For example, she expects us to eat dinner together every single day. I don't know if divorce is the correct answer, but I think it might be the only way to save my sanity. Has anyone here ever gotten a divorce? What was it like? How did you cope with the emotional fallout? I'm so lost and confused right now. I need some help.
Why did you get married in the first place? If you were sucking up then , why run away now? You were showing her that it’s working by not leaving in the beginning. What’s with people talking about divorce this casually.
If he made a big mistake in the past, he should spend the rest of his life living it? He did show her that it's working by not leaving initially but staying in this marriage will 100% be worse.
Maybe he was afraid of being alone and now he realized it's not a good reason?
Couples therapy if both of you want it to work. If it still doesn't, divorce
Arranged marriage?? Why did you marry her at the first place if you already knew it was a shit show? Try marriage counseling. If it doesn't work, just follow your heart and start a new life.
I don’t get it - if you are married, I think you would eat dinner together. If you can’t stand that then things are difficult.
The issue is clearly bigger than just dinner. I think it's just one example OP gave that's probably relatively insignificant among all things.
blame your parents for the arranged marriage
I don't think it's unreasonable to want to have dinner with your partner... At any rate, try couples therapy and let her know you're unhappy so you guys can give it a chance and try to save it before springing divorce on her.
every freakin day????
Unless there's some particular reason you can't, it should be the default.
Ps. Be ready for the fallout. It will be hard and the scorned patterner will try to ruin you, but in all stay true to your own nature and defend yourself. You may even feel isolated and hurt by the loss of divorce, but the pain to stay outweighs all. Then have the courage to rebuild new loving relationships
Maybe try couples therapy. Also I know it’s just an example you put out there but expecting to eat dinner with you every night isn’t ridiculous. Most families do that
I feel bad she had to tell him that
If it’s a prison then leave. Separation is trial version
It maybe better to get another offer (affaire) first before proceeding! Sorry for being insensitive