He is a great guy otherwise but recently he did something that is very rude to many of my fellow colleagues, especially women. He is ordering T shirts for some upcoming team event and he shared the file with people’s names asking them to put their T shirt size. The file is public meaning we can see what others have put for sizes. I put ’XS ’for myself (I am a petite woman) and didn’t think too much but few of my Indian women colleagues are upset about it. During lunch breaks, they expressed how our skip is rude for not making T shirt size information private. My opinion is that, since they are on the heavier side, they don’t want others to see that they are ordering ‘L’ or ‘XL’ for the T shirt size. (2 of them put ‘L’ and other put ‘XL’ in the shared file). Growing up here, it was pretty common for my school/college athletic coaches do the same while ordering team gear, so I think it’s common in the US. I am genuinely curious if this is a cultural thing? TC : 330k, Sunnyvale
Nothing wrong with being on the heavy side, hence nothing wrong with displaying that as public information. Unless they're implying being fat is something to be ashamed about.
This does not reflect reality at all. The well-intentioned desire to make size acceptance a reality does not at all match the perception of overweight/obese people in the USA. Fat-shaming is ubiquitous and accepted.
I suggest moving to a place where there are real problems. That way you don’t have to fabricate new ones.
If you don't want others to see your t-shirt size, just send it by email directly. Drama over.
Chances are if the dude presents this in an open document (who tf uses a shared document for this kind of thing anyway?) he’s gonna reply “thanks! Added it to the doc for you!” And actually think he’s helping
Then it's a simple matter of saying do me a favor and don't post it..
This is why western countries collapse, nitpicking on T shirt size!
Are your colleagues remote and no one saw them before?
Who is responding on here? It is borderline unacceptable to show everyone’s shirt sizes publicly: might as well have people add their weights.
Your colleagues think others are blind and can only see the tshirt sizes ?
Do these offended people wear an invisible cloak to the office so no one can see their fatness also? If I was the manager and got this feedback, you’d be getting water bottles for every future swag, extra large ones.
They wear a niqab
If your colleagues are ashamed at their shirt sizes, they should go on a diet, not complain about it being public. Trust me, we all can see who is wearing XXL
Your team is soft
‘Literally’ 😆 I feel so guilty for writing this but all well!
The idea of someone in tech—Google, no less—describing anyone as “soft” is absurd and laughable.