Indians in US R2I

R2I is not as easy as it sounds. Even I had exactly same plan as you 13 years ago and here I am still. Work is good, life is good... And if the only reason for R2I is just to go back, it rarely happens.

R2I depends upon whether you still have friends left in India. As you know Bangalore traffic is a pain, many don't have friends left in the city, so how do you expect NRIs who have lived 10 years in the US to suddenly move back to India with no friends or family. Parents alone cannot be the reason to move back. A couple needs to have some social system to live and function like a normal family

Pay in India has gotten good only on very selected professions, especially SWE ones in big MNCs. With that in mind, it can be appealing for core tech folks who target big companies to go back. There are always pros and cons between R2I and Not R2I, and totally depends on priorities, comfort and future plans. Also the poll data you have received could be biased given the number of folks chipping in. And again hey, its just one person’s opinion here based on experience.

Completely a different topic maybe , has been on my mind lately . Like any topic we write here . Has anyone read this : https://www.quora.com/How-is-life-in-India-after-returning-from-the-USA/answer/Charlie-Buffett-2?ch=15&oid=151021892&share=ac77de22&srid=ufimc&target_type=answer I am in the US for the past 4 years.

I am in late 20s female, have lived here in the US for the last 3 years. And I have no intention to go back to India for settling. There are many reasons for that. First and foremost is the professional growth. If you ask me I was pretty tired of the rant from people that I did not make it to IITs/NITs. Pay was shitty. I personally saw huge amt of pay difference from my male counterparts. (Not saying its transparent and unbiased in US, but the gap is bearable) My bosses were a-holes. There was no personal time I got, and guess what, the work (and exposure) was subpar. Its not just my story. There are many of my friends who have had the same struggle and finally decided to move abroad for good. Second, is the safety/culture/poking nose or whatever you wanna call it. Families, neighbour aunties made my life living hell. I wasn’t able to “date” freely or wear what I wanted while I was in India. People gave looks so much importance that I always felt out of place. I am not ugly, I just didnt look like an Indian which was pointed out almost everyday. No one in the US cares about these random things. Lol. Third, life in general is easy and better. But this is subjective. I think this is based on the individual so wont add much here. Last but not the least, $$ helped me achieve a lot more and a lot quicker. My family isnt rich, i would say lower middle class. There was a lot of things they wanted to do but could never afford. Today, just coz I am here, some of the things are possible. I know parents are a factor that I often think about. Definitely i am losing my time with them while I am staying in the US. But in the big scheme of things, I wouldn’t be happy if I move back. So I have made peace with the fact that its okay. I can still do a lot of things for my family, support them in every way, and still see them twice an year. I am okay with it. So you need to see what you are okay with. Also, I was also in the loop of arrange marriage and a lot of guys asked me the same thing ..basically to move with them to India. I will just give you a pointer from the other side. If you have plans to move back, marry someone who has the same mindset or someone from india who is ready to come to US for a few years. These decisions are made together. Don’t make moving to India as a criteria. Instead, try to understand if the girl is gonna be supportive in case you do decide to go back. Spend time to find the rock solid partner. Because life is uncertain and no matter the plans sometimes you need to figure things out as you go along. Hope things work out for you!