Please feel free to list out what has worked for you and what hasn't TC 160k Yoe 11
Get the husband to help!
Husband helps but still feels like there is no end to the chores
Make lists, and don't ty to do everything at once. That gets frustrating! And make sure you do one pot meals/ eat out once in the week and and once during the weekend. Instapot meals are great btw, saves a lot of time
Sugar daddy
Ladies - $20 per hour help available on Craigslist unless you want to save $20. Donβt be a miser and spend some Money. And live a quality life.
Poorly would be an accurate description. Constantly rotate from doing one okay and the other bare minimum. Was starting to get back in groove and then delta hit and we are all getting out of a 2 week quarantine. Best advice I got is be honest with yourself- you can only do so much.
But I get depressed if I am not able to manage everything
Sounds like you have a problem. Obsessed with chores. May be start by focusing on self care and allowing yourself a break. You need to remind yourself that keeping a perfect home is not the goal.
I'm juggling home and work just like my husband. By sharing.
Indian husbands think that they are doing a favor by helping and when their mothers visit it just gets worse
It's important to communicate that same thing to your husband and in laws that he is not doing any favors by helping. It's a shared responsibility. Women didn't work decades ago. Now they do, just like men.
Get a bachelor bf (cub) on side.
My wife cooks and I do everything else (I do cook about twice a week). Also train your kids to do chores, the earlier the easier. My kids started doing dishes and laundry since they were 5.
we split up the work around 50-50
If I had an extra $80k/year Iβd hire a personal chef. Honestly I hate cooking, grocery shopping, and eating from restaurants all the time.
Honestly, we need to figure out a better support system to solve this problem. Like Mumbai dabba system
I tried a local meal prep company but the food wasnβt delicious and my husband was bummed out by it.
Outsourced chores as soon as vaccinated help was available. My husband helps out quite a bit, especially with kid's stuff but he works a high stress job too and I realized that our weekends were equally busy with one of us on kid duty and the other doing chores in rotation. That meant no time for ourselves and each other too. The help is expensive but worth the peace of mind.
What have you hired the help for? What is the frequency?
Bunblbee - does your husband also work for Amazon? I'm considering switching jobs because of that reason