I don’t know why but life just feels hollow. I barely have anyone I can really call a friend these days. Everyone seems to be too busy. I moved to the US and I’m struggling to make friends who I can be close with. Every relationship feels like a transaction. Everyone I knew and cared for (except my wife) seem to be drifting far away. I enjoy my wife’s company but how much can you just be with one person? I have pretty much I ever wanted and the money to buy almost anything else I might need. But I wish I could buy some true friends. Take care 190k
Get kids?
Dude at least you have a wife. Imagine not having wife, gf, date or friends. I am sometimes secretly grateful to Amazon for terrible WLB, at least it keeps me busy else I would have been depressed in the US. Start working out, that helps kill time too
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Read Rene Guenon's book : Crisis of the modern world. You'll know exactly why you feel that way
First, make sure you are working out regularly. Second, find a faith community or secular equivalent. Working in IT can be soul killing at times. You might benefit from a higher purpose or cause within a community that doesnt care solely about dollars, status and hedonism. Lastly, volunteer for REALLY unfortunate people. It will give purpose but nurture a deep sense of gratitude. Try these things, and agree to not do anything drastic, and come back to us in 3-4 months and report your state.
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Why not go back and be happy. You say you have enough savings, why not choose what makes you happy?
Do you make any effort to meet people? Or make an effort to turn people you know into friends?
Sometimes I have. But I feel like it’s a one way street. Feels like only I’m trying to reach out to people. But again, I’m also equally or more responsible. I don’t or may not have been good with reaching out to friends in the past because of grad school work load, Amazon workload and often ego coming in the way.
Making friends like the ones you could make in college or childhood isnt easy once you are working. So dont beat yourself up. Especially if you are not an extrovert. Every relation feels like transaction because alot of time it is one. No one is drifting away but people get busy with their lives. You have to make an extra effort to go to places where you can meet other people.
How long ago did you move?
7 years ago