Always been a decent performer in school and work. No major complaints about my job as it is challenging enough and I can earn my bread. Got married about a year ago, a beautiful life that I never anticipated. However, I feel like as I'm growing older, the number of responsibilities are increasing exponentially - parents getting older and health issues, cannot go and meet them whenever possible due to visa issues, younger siblings career, social pressures for buying a bigger house/cars/materialistic items and now plan to have kids which is a huge undertaking by itself. I'm about 28 M and feel almost half of my life is over running behind things, which eventually came go me, but never was satisfied and started catch-up game for other items in life. I don't know when this stops, but in recent times, I'm afraid to take on challenges instead of facing them/risk-taking mode faded compared to while I was younger. Can't get to sleep most days and get some sort of anxiety attacks thinking of the future and whether I'll be able to handle it. I feel like giving up, running away from all these worldly pleasures, and starting a fresh life in a small village back home in India and never care about people judging me. I am scared of more materialistic investments like a house/bigger car as that further pushes my next 20 years into this grinding machine, but I would like to have kids and shift down my gears. Has anyone been through this? Is it normal, or should i seek therapy? Have about 1 million NW and feel that I can rest and vest with that in india, relatively closer to family and out of hustle mode. Any thoughts? I'm 28 years old. Is it too early to quit the race? TC: 340k, combined: 420k
I lost you when you said you’re 28. That’s not old. Wait until you’re in 30s and 40s. Good luck.
lol 28 and he feels old lmao
Does it get any better after 30s/40s or do usually people get used to it? I'm afraid sticking more to it impacts health and career? @msft agree that 28 could be too young, but I know some people in early 30s had heatstroke and major health issues due to constant stress. That might be one of the reasons I'm thinking this way.
I’m in my 40 with your NW I hope that helps you
I feel everything you’re writing here. I think it speaks to a misalignment in priories on what we feel like fills our cup, and what the external world demands from us. Growing up, we were told to get a career, get a house, have kids, etc — that seems to be the only way to be, honestly. But I don’t think being a corporate warrior aligns with anyone’s inner callings.
Just be with your family, that’s what matters. You have plenty of money and I’m sure you’ll be able to find a great job in India
In your list of increasing responsibilities, why would your younger siblings careers be your burden?
If I don't take that, it would be pushed on my older parents. Sibling has about 60k education loan, yet still needs to get a job aftwr graduation and my parents are worried about sibling's future, and I want to take that responsibility.
So what does that actually mean? Your younger bro/sis decides to go to University, gets a degree, then doesn't have to worry about $60k in student loans which he/she got because either you or your parents will foot the bill if they don't get a job?
1 million is easily 8 crore. Even if you spend 1 lac per month without any investment still you can live comfortably for 600 months (adjusting inflation) . That's 50 years
Not all of my NW is liquid, though. But as we have kids, I'm aware that the expenses increase and need to figure a plan for that
You are still 28, you have at least 2-4 more years before getting worried about these things. Totally feel the same way. Tired of running after these things I never wanted in life, all because of peer pressure and societal demands. One tip - if you are not married yet, try to find a partner who is willing to move back to India long term.
Already married about a year ago, and my wife is ready to move back. However, she just started her career about a year ago and since she's only 24, wants to give some more time before making this choice.
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