It's amazing how much of a difference location makes. In NYC, I was happy, energetic, and excited. The diversity, urban life, interesting people, and dating scene, were intoxicating. In sharp contrast, I have been depressed and lethargic here in Seattle. Good friends have commented on my transformation; several have turned down Amazon jobs because of my Seattle experience. Anyone else have a similar experience?
New York is a stinking, crowded, expensive dump. Seattle has turned into mini-New York unfortunately but within a 45 minute drive / ferry ride there are places where I can feel reasonably content. So, to each his own.
First of all, take care of yourself. The Seattle-Tacoma metro area has the second highest suicide attempt rate of the 33 largest metropolitan areas in the US. Seattle is tough to adapt to, but if you can find the right combination of self-care and a tight, supportive social circle, the quality of life here can be rewarding. Buy one or two SAD lights (the irony is not lost), try meditation, and consider reframing your outlook on winter gloominess. Lots of us slog around under the overcast skies, with the ember of spring and summer burning in the deepest part of our souls, patiently waiting for the amazingness just around the corner. If you just can’t make it, talk with your boss to see if you can work remote. If so, pack it up and head on back to NYC! In any case, keep your chin up. While we all do in fact have assholes, not all of us choose to live life as one. ;)
People are moving here from Delhi, Bangalore, Shanghai, and all sorts of overcrowded hellholes. Grow a pair and adapt. 🍆
Yes, I moved from Boston to CA, which wasn’t too bad, but Seattle has been depressing:(
In Seattle: Ask doctor to test your vitamin D level. Most likely you need to boost it up significantly. Get your ass out of the office and out of the house. Go to work. Bike. Fight a hobo. Drive to other side of Cascades every now and then. Play in the snow. Take vacation in winter, go somewhere sunny Meet people. Not everyone here is a whiny vitamin D deficient sociopath ;) Some failed even that.
Living in Seattle is like being in NYC winter all year long. Move to sunny California.
Dude(tte) I had the exact same thing in Seattle and moved to NYC as a result. Mental health is more important than any job.
Are you a lot happier in NYC? How different is your life now, compared to when you were in Seattle?
Like night and day for the most part. I left before Seattle exploded even more than it already was and many of my old social circles diluted shortly after I left. Dating, very difficult in Seattle, is easier in NYC, very easy if you lower your standards enough Housing is smaller, but I don't have the urgency to leave so I can properly outfit my home like an adult.
I moved to Apple from another East coast city, it hasn't been fun for me either.
leetcode to NYC sounds like. ONE LAST THING: does anyone care about bombs at all? I turned down an offer due to the bombing scene. That freaked me out.
Egh, we average one a year. NBD. NYPD learns quick
not cool with that. will try to solve personal problems elsewhere then... elsewhere like redmond
I think moving from NYC is especially hard. I experience the same when I migrated west. It has gotten better once I established a true network of friends, which took almost 3 years to do. I went from running half marathons, going out for drinks and dinners to becoming a lethargic hermit. Have gotten much better but my advice is, if you are unhappy, perhaps a move back is the best!