How to deal with elitism and complex?
I did not grow up in an elite circle, neither financially nor educationally. I often found myself tumble upon personal complex while dealing with the "elites". While people don't say it explicitly, I felt I was being treated like an idiot, or am afraid to be treated as one. Both my managers went to Princeton as an undergraduate and got their PhDs from MIT. Collegues who went to Georgetown, Dartmouth with dads who are hedge fund/assets managers. Me - Minnesota undergrad. #princeton#mit
1. Learn to code switch. 2. Separate work from life. You’re effectively an immigrant in your own country. US is huge and regional. This thing you’re experiencing is just part of the human condition.
So they have spent 6 figures to be at your same level. I think you are the smart one.
☝🏽came here to say this I bet they got crazy complex in their heads about how their privilege got here so far... Their elitist behavior is a shield for their own shortcomings/imposter syndrome.
I agree. Best advice Is to realize they probably don’t even know how privileged they are because it’s all relative. They are most likely comparing themselves to their peers, and will feel insecure just like us. I promise you, they still care, and their life experiences may be different, but they still compare, they still feel like they’re not good enough etc because they are comparing to their equal counter parts. SO best thing you can do is, use your uniqueness, talent, and make it your story and identity. Wear it like a shield. Also, don’t ever make them feel like they are better than you.
I went to PTon with some really really reeeeeellly stupid people if that helps Prestige and elitism is some boomer shit, don’t propagate that madness. Any dipshit with a computer can compete in this day and age. I have friends who are doctors, lawyers, and phds, and none of the make as much as I do or are as advanced in their careers. I’m also from a dirt poor family, and I failed out of college. Also legacy plays a huge role in ivy admissions. I know a lot of people who have family history at the school, but obviously weren’t qualified themselves to be there.
I went to one of stanford/mit/Berkeley/cmu and I swear half the people there are idiots. If you are at the same place as these “elite” people up are doing really good - keep your head up!
You gotta worker harder tbh. Hard to break into the network but once you do, enjoy it.
Let me tell you a story. As a kid, I grew up in a life of relative luxury and riches (private school, chauffer driven cars, books/computers/game consoles, etc) - I didn't quite realize *how much* privilege I had until I went to (public) college and ran into folks who came from very very modest upbringings (ok, u could call them poor) - sons and daughters of mill workers depending on daily wages, living in 10x10ft homes (that was the size of my bedroom). After the 4 yr college, and starting out my masters in the US, it slowly dawned on me that I had been what you call an Elitist. To the core. It was unconscious bias to most extent but probably some was conscious too. I was very upset with myself and reached out to many of my college mates to apologise and also reset the relationship. It was an eye opener in terms of how much they appreciated the gesture and how forgiving they were about this. It taught me a very valuable life lesson. In a supreme case of irony, I find that many of my friends that I acquainted after coming to the US, have been becoming more and more elitist (while I am going in the opposite direction)... Almost all of them come from very humble backgrounds as well. As I watch them fall over each other to brag about their Teslas, mansions, and other d-measuring contests, my explanation is they are acting out their fantasies and behaviors they envied (and "detested" per their own imaginary explanation) of their childhood elitist friends, lest unaware that they are turning into elitists themselves thus setting in motion a vicious cycle (and rendering their "rage about suffering in the hands of elitists" hollow). It is indeed amusing to watch this from the sidelines. I dont try to tell them all this because hopefully they too will come to self-realization about whats going on - or not; I got better things to do, such as to better myself.
Once you’re in environments like that, the only thing that people care about is your performance, not what school you went to
Hmmm not really
I agree with Microsoft