Marrying on H1-B

true, but wanted to get a perspective. It was hard to come here and earn well. Moving back would be starting over, but if its for the right person, I don't mind..

How did you find your so?

Matrimony sites, it was a traumatizing search but worth the wait

but that limits the pool to cs professionals. That's the whole point of the post.

Why it limits to CS? Once your partner has ead they can work in any industry. Their might be domain specific exams they will have to qualify, but don't have to give up careers

Are you an Indian? If not, you haven't lived our life, so don't blabber shit

Desi hoon bhai. Yes I am indian and from a lower middle class for whom IIT & CSE was the only way out of poverty. So I understand struggles of Indian guys but if you have seen attitude of indian girls in India then even the unemployed ones ain't interested in uprooting their established social life and coming here as a dependent marrying a stranger who she probably met only a couple of times in person and the rest through video calls. Their self awareness through feminism movement has made them self reliant. Even if its less pay most are employed in white collar jobs. They are no longer getting brainwashed by what their parents are telling them. Oh I am myself an Indian guy

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And this must have been already a few years. In last 2-3 years and post 2021 there is a different level of self awareness in girls and most under 25 totally frown upon on arrange marriage let alone with one who is a complete stranger as a second class person in a marriage on a dependent visa. Hell if I was a girl I would have been creeped out as well

She got married last November ;). But you are right. she was working at oracle in bangalore and led my parents on a merry chase trying to convince her to pick somebody from their vetted list from a regional matrimonial site for close to 3 years! This guy slipped in unintentionally but clicked with my sis when they spoke with each other.

This in a way it's good as well. Girls and boys both know what they are signing up for.

"No girl should have to uproot their life to be with a stranger in a different country". Its a choice. No one is being forced to do anything.

How ? Is there a magic wand? OP can best optimize their search in India.

This or someone who is already in US. Patience is the key.

i mean even if my final goal is to settle in india, if its gonna take me a year or two and if she accompanies me to US, she would effectively be taking a break from her career which may be lethargic for her future job prospects. All i am saying is it may reduce the pool .

Now that I know your requirement, find someone from India who can sacrifice career for couple of years.