To all the mean guys out there, I've got something to say. If you're not sure you're one of them, sit tight because I'm about to lay it all out. For too long, I've been undoing the lies told by men intimidated by me: … that I'm less valuable … my openness is a flaw … I'm not fit to lead … my ideas are too out there … my voice is too strong … speaking my truth harms “our” image … I'm not doing enough (despite doing everything they demanded) No more. I've spent years healing, breaking free from toxic bonds, and leaving spaces and relationships—both personal and professional—that didn't value me. I've worked to free myself from the trauma ties, but I found myself still engaging with these mean guys, both online and off. I hesitated to step away from their influence, caught in a system that's been harmful to me. But a realization hit me: I want absolutely nothing to do with that kind of power, with those circles, with those types of men. Their popularity, reach, or platform means nothing to me. So, as Spring begins, I've done some cleaning. I realized I was still linked to so many men—online and in real life—who are far from being supporters. Instead, they're the mean guys, especially disappointing since many work in areas promoting equality. They posture as allies but betray us behind closed doors, causing harm in countless ways: … stealing our work without credit … spreading rumors … using us for their gain, never returning the favor … excluding us from gatherings and networks … leveraging exclusivity to keep us out The tables are turning now. … I won’t be part of your events … I won’t show up at your gatherings … I won’t support your projects … I won’t invite you to meaningful discussions … I won’t include you in empowering events … I’m done pretending you're anything but what you are: a mean guy It’s not my job to teach you—grown men—how to treat others with respect. I’ll focus my energy on true allies. And I won't waste my energy on you anymore. Mean guys find their crowd. True allies support each other. If this strikes a chord, it’s meant for you. Check for yourself. Are we still “connected”? Not anymore. We hold grudges and we don't forget. I keep my side clean. You wouldn't understand. But, soon, you will.
Not even 10am and already enough Blind for the day
You should give this a go https://depts.washington.edu/uwbrtc/about-us/dialectical-behavior-therapy/
What does this have to with tech or gays?
ChatGPT or Gemini?
Tbh, I have to come across a gay guy who is also mean
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I ain’t reading all that. I am happy for u tho or sorry that happened