I have dated my girlfriend for two years now. Everything between us has been great, except for her mother. I was a phd student in an east coast city. My girlfriend and her mom live nearby. Earlier this year I graduated and moved with my girlfriend to a new city. Her mom is extremely upset. She told me “despite she’s an adult, they are still a family and she won’t let her go”. She lives in a deep blue state (with government benefits) and voted trump and is mildly racism. Because I am a chinese national with a sibling, she used that as a reason to accuse me of connection to the government and that I could be a spy. She also constantly accuses me of manipulating her daughter. I am afraid these accusations would one day lead to legal consequences. I am still on opt so my status is fragile. Is there any (legal) way to protect myself from this situation? I know if she decides to tell FBI her conspiracy theory, my career would be ruined and I will have to deal with it for months if not years. I thought about ending the relationship, but I love my girlfriend and it would be quite unfair. TC: 230K YOE: 0
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Report her to the FBI first
Tell them she stormed the Capitol on January 6th
rofl ignore the crazy mom who cares
Not worth dealing with that kind of shit as an immigrant. I'd break up if your girlfriend's mom continues to interfere with your life.
Just gtfo. Don't ruin your life.
You can probably recover from this breakup. Would you still marry her anyway and deal with mom forever? Maybe best to cut your losses
I’ve been thinking about the scenario that I will never see her mom in my life even if I marry her. She’s upset but understanding. I guess I will see how long this can sustain for now.
Lol , break up with her then , do you really want to deal with this added shit to an already stressful swe life with PIP looming ?
I don’t want to create this causality. But the 🍎 doesn’t fall far from the 🌳. Are you sure your love is not blind ? Your story sounds surreal btw. I would not want such a mother in law in my life. If the GF can’t control the mom you are in a really fucked up situation. The mom sounds like first class white trash man. Gotta be honest. Unless the girl is a tangent to her mother and has a Ph.D or is wildly successful I would move on man. You don’t want to end up on Jerry Springer.
Unrelated, but how did you go past character limit for username on blind?
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Imagine having her as a mother in law. I would leave. Love the girl but your reason for breaking up is solid. Also what is your gf saying. Idk many amazing people in the world find another one.
She’s very understanding, even after i told her i don’t want to deal with her mom ever again. She’s suffered enough too. That’s why it’s very difficult to break up.
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He's on blind. What more proof do you need?