Anybody have a problem with family that has misaligned priorities? Everybody is focused on taking it easy. No drive, no ambition, no hustle. What to do? The grand irony of this is they branded me a loser in my youth for not hustling. My parents are more interested in me buying a big house, having kids and confining my life to mediocrity. My wife would rather chill and have an easy job that is well below her ability and earning potential, but hey it's easy. Too busy planning trips I wouldn't rather not take and pay for and socializing with her equally mediocre friends. I get yelled at when I eat dinner quickly to get back to work instead of watching TV with her or planning what she wants to wear to a friend's wedding. I feel like I am the only one with hustle. I want to get to Staff SWE, and maybe principal someday, I want to start a company or a micro-fund, I want to make sure my future children can get into the Ivy League. TC 400k, 30 Years old, 8 YoE
I mean your wife isn't wrong. With age and TC, you need to chill a bit and explore outside of tech, otherwise you will get bored in next 5 years. Don't wanna be robots right?
This is good advise !!!!
I agree with this. But I guess there's more here. You can hustle while still enjoying and exploring.
Your wife is on another app right now, making a post about how her husband ignores her and thinks she's dumb because she would rather travel and spend time with friends than grind for TC. And she is right and you are wrong
100%
Also, Complaining that he was big time nerd and buzz killer like Sheldon Cooper.
Align your priorities and make sure she is aware
Why are you parents want you to buy big house? Are they going to live with you? They should stop involving in your life to avoid breakup and other consequences.
Because they like to fill it with stupid stuff from Costco. I wish I was joking. Quantity over quality is the name of their game
Do you think he has time for affairs?
This is possibly the worst āadviceā Iāve ever read. What a waste of breath.
Lol.. your wife seems chill itās you who is the problem.. enjoy your life ā¦. Life is never about becoming CEO and looking down at people .. your kids would never have bright future if you donāt know how to spend time with them..
ROFL
The real sad thing is that people like OP sacrifice so much. They sacrifice the relationship with their wife and kids to move ahead and keep busy. They won't even realize their goals. They will never become a CEO or start a microfund etc.. they will simply waste the best days of their life and have absolutely nothing to show for the "hustle" in the end. Then they will have the realization that they wasted their life/ time. OP's wife is really unlucky that she married an idiot. She deserves someone better.
What to do? Figure out why you are insecure and need validation from your career when you are already earning plenty of money and could be enjoying life with your family.
If you donāt mind me asking, what race are you? Just curious because I have a cousin who is a director/vp at a small tech company. He wanted to start his own business but my uncle/aunt wanted him to settle down and take it easy. Wondering if this is a cultural disconnect.
My guess, Asian mostly Indian. P.S: Im Indian
Yea thatās my assumption too. My family (East Asian) didnāt have an education growing up. They had to drop out of school to work since their early teens, and worked hard throughout their adult years so we could have the education and relaxing life that they didnāt have. When I can work a 9-5 job and make 400k before 30 with good wlb itās mission successful for my parents. They donāt want to see us go through the grind that they went through. They want us to have stability
For a second, I thought I was reading my autobiography.
I wonder if you thought twice?
Or just cheat