TLDR - Title I am in WA state. I was provided no training or onboarding after I joined. I struggle with a few health issues that I was open with my manager about. I have a neurological disability that went undiagnosed until very recently. This combined with no training left me trying to figure it all out myself. I was marked LITE because I am slow. I worked long hours to deliver on core priorities the next time. I delivered 3 out of 4. Couldnt on the last because of many blockers that were external to our team. I went to India for 3 weeks for Visa stamping. I was marked LITE. I was told I lack product knowledge. My questions from manager 1:1s were used as a reference in my connect to prove I don’t have knowledge. I brought to my manager’s attention that the dev team is unresponsive and disrespectful and leaves you hanging on read. I was told he can’t help since he was not in those chats. I escalated dev team’s behavior to my skip. He gaslit me saying I was the first person to ever say that and everyone else is happy. I had a breakdown at work and was suicidal due to feeling like a worthless piece of shit at work. I took 3 months disability leave to recuperate. My manager went on a leave 2 months before me and returned a week before I did (he was out 5 months). I had gotten diagnosed and had proper medication so I jumped back into work determined to get my LITE off this time. At this point, i know you will tell me that I should have left long ago. I know. I just wanted to not feel worthless so I tried. I was given some trivial shit to do that was escalated into getting knee deep in data and working closely with a few dev teams. I did my part to make it easier for them by digging into every piece of code and doc I could find. I delivered this without any of their help. I was asked to also build a doc on a product I do not own. I learned it and created all doc for it, manager liked it too. I go to a meeting, new people on the team are loud and treat this as a KT and not a code base review. I am unable yo get through it. I ask my manager for focused meetings. I am asked to be more effective instead. I escalate to my skip’s manager and he looks on feigning ignorance. I have been putting 15 hours into my work everyday. I am delivering on asks. But the goalpost is moved slightly every time i come close to it. I have worked 15 hour days undoing my disability leave. Except now, i don’t eat, sleep or shower. I need to stand up for myself. I need to find a lawyer to help me. Please let me know if anyone has any recommendations for lawyers specializing in disability and mental harassment at work in WA state. I am desperate. Please. L60 180k 4 YOE #washingtonstate #wa #workplacebullying #workplaceproblems #workplace #msft #microsoft #disability #accommodation #amazon #google #mentalhealth #lawyer #boeing #costco #meta #advise #help #hrissues #hr
Your worth is not defined by your job. Sometimes it is just a bad fit. Stressing about it and trying to fix it is unlikely to work at this point. Even if it did you will spend years fighting to remove the negative brand and get on a growth trajectory. Pause, think of what you can do better if you find yourself in a similar situation and move on.
Honestly, you don’t need a lawyer. It won’t help. What you need is to quit and start seeing a therapist to start undoing the damage this experience has had on you.
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Yes it is. I’m asking everyone everywhere as long as I can find some guidance. I’m desperate.
First off, sounds rough and I know how tough and confusing mental health can be. Good for you for getting help, and asking here. You can get lawyer referrals through the WA bar association. You want an employment lawyer, they will decide if they want to take the case. What you want is a settlement that will allow you time to heal before stepping back into the job market.
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Is your manager gulti or skip is gulti? Or are you gulti? They are abusing their powers. But how do I trust you?
You don’t have to trust me. But i would not be sitting here asking for help if I didn’t know something is extremely wrong. Is it my fault the first time I got a shitty rating? I was slow. Yes. But after that I have stepped up my work. I put in the hours and i try. As my manager, it falls of them to support me in clearing any blockers. They shouldn’t be asking me to “ask better questions” and when I do ask those better questions, he should’nt be trying to bury me in more busy work like “hey create this entire doc from scratch, with resources not documented anywhere just so they can understand you better”. You can only push yourself for so long until you realize that nothing would be good enough and everyone sees you struggling with your leadership but noone will help you. So no. I am not asking for you to believe me. I am asking for recommendations for a lawyer. If people at work see me beg everyone in the chain of command to extend a little support to me and they choose to overlook it, i do not expect your trust based on just words.
You need audio and email proofs of all or some of the "wrongs" they did. I will find out the best lawyers and update you.