Wishing I was never born

I was recently set up with a guy who wants to go back to India eventually. He said he would give me complete support if I don’t want to leave if it destroys my career. I was really happy to hear his support and decided to invest more deeply into the relationship. A few weeks later, he insisted that if I do not agree to go back with him, he would break the relationship right then and there. I felt cornered and I agreed to it. In all honesty, I work in research and my career choices in India are pretty limited to non-existent. Also, I work in a female deficit field which can be even more challenging (irrespective of which country I’m in). I made him aware of this and mentioned I might have to be a stay at home wife if I move back to India and asked him for a plan about the move back like when to move back, where in India does he plan to settle and what is the reason for him to move back ( in retrospect, he mentioned availability of street food as a reason and I was a bit upset that I have to give up a career for street food). I heard an earful from my family for asking him for more clarity and letting him know about my job situation in India. I just turned 30 and am subjected to lot of criticism and pressure to “settle down”. I was told that I am very picky, not open to compromise and am too career-oriented. I worked really hard to earn a PhD and develop my research. Lately I’m scared to even tell anyone if I won or achieved anything. I do want a relationship and marriage but I feel nobody cares if I am happy or not. I am feeling abandoned and very cornered. I don’t know if I should even work or aim for a career path anymore. With the constant criticism, I feel extremely discouraged to even care about life in general. Edit 1: Thank you all for the tremendous support. I just wanted to clarify one part. Regarding the reasons for moving back, he never gave me a solid reason but mentioned street food and less discrimination as perks of being in India. I can see a lot of criticism against the guy but in his defence, he never answered my question clearly. Apologies for the lack of clarity in my communication earlier. Also, I must mention that I did ask him to not contact me till he has some clarity on the move back. I did see some comments on how women would be treated differently if we gave ultimatum. I agree with those comments to a certain degree. However, despite this knowledge, I intentionally gave him a do-or-die deal to “give him the taste of his own medicine “. Please help me.#depression #burnout #mentalhealth