My anecdotal observation after interacting with kids from both public and private schools is that— Kids from private are better behaved and better mannered than kids from public. The public school high school kids were cussing and swearing in front of their parents quite a bit. They don’t listen. And are generally “checked out “ and don’t really have a warm relationship with their families. Even the elementary and middle school kids in public were showing signs of this kind of behavior Is this true? Private school kids were generally more well behaved. Though the downside of being well behaved may be that they are less capable of dealing with the rough adult world once they graduate college though. So if you want your kids to be more family oriented and better behaved, then send them to private school
If you grow up and still need to deal with rough adults , you are a loser
Could you please elaborate? Rough adults will be there irrespective of whether you are at top notch tech company or some random working class company
Maybe u can define rough adults so we can be on the same page. But in public schools, rough adults are essentially bullies and drug doers and basically losers. In private school, rough adults could be hypocrites and those who want to win and therefore sabotage your work or talk behind you or try to isolate you from friends, etc etc. I guess if you need to deal with bullies when u grow up (well,, yeah contractor are bullies) then likely u r a loser already
If high school kids don't cuss there is something wrong with them. Jokes(not) aside, private school kids are raised with blinders on and often find themselves clueless if they can't throw money at a problem or chore when they grow up. This is not necessarily bad because they are gonna be $$$ anyway, courtesy parents.
Seriously. Knowing how to act in different circumstances is part of life. I didn’t cuss in school, but now as an adult, my parents and I banter and use cuss words to express extreme emotion or disbelief. Doesn’t mean that we’re constantly cussing while at the country club or out to dinner or in front of kids. But being well mannered is training and practice. You don’t have to be a boring potato your whole life.
For public school this depends on the school district and pocket of kids/friends. I think every school you go to will have some group of kids who aren’t well behaved, neglected by parents etc in different ways.
In hindsight, if you realized that you had not need to obtain a court-restraining order for your kid against another kid in public school, you have not seen the worst. I think that public school works for most kids but not mine. You mention about well-behaved but you have not mentioned about tenacity to negotiate. My son is currently in private school and the school did not make him less of a squeaky wheel. Yes he is safeguarded at school but he is also learning how to use I statements in difficult conversations so that he can assert himself in the adult world. We as parents also have a lot of knowledge to impart and model on these kids too.
You nailed it