All my friends are software engineers and I learned it hard way that they are not my true friends. They keep comparing each other all the time and sometimes get jealous at each other’s success. Only talk about money and which level they are working at. Call each other to boast about their package/promotion etc. I only have 3 real friends who are much older than me and not really into tech jobs. Very lucky to have them in my life. I feel all these friend groups who keep meeting on weekends and posting Instagram, are actually not friends, but competitors.
Atleast you have 3 real friends 🥲
I have a friend like this always lies about how much he's making or girls he's hooking up with. I'm making new friends who hopefully r better
Are any of them rich? I find many talk about money but they're poor
Just focus on self care dude You are gonna attract so much positivity, better people, opportunities, etc once you start loving yourself
Good to realize these things, its unfortunate but people change and we must change when we notice that. Finding who makes you a better person or is a good company to hangout or talk to is important. I've distanced myself from quite a few people as the friendship no longer felt good anymore. Don't get hung up on these things though, the pandemic taught me it's not so bad to be alone should I not have people around.
Try to get to know people in other fields or other cultures. Software engineers aren't all competitive like that, maybe it's the culture not the job.
I used to agonize over this. Later on I realized not every "friend" has to be "real friend". There are friends I hike/camp with, friends I drink with, friends I confide in, and friends I would do everything for. There's value in all kinds of relationships. Stay away from the toxic ones, but don't expect anyone to be perfect.
Your work friends sound like bros. I’d avoid them. Bros are horrible until they turn 40-45. I work around a ton of them.
See if you can meet people who don’t define themselves by what they do for a living (gross)
Find new friends