I had my mum come in to help me with my first pregnancy. Mine was a love marriage but convinced both sides. I am a Brahmin and he isnt. Thats wasnt the issue for my parents but lately after my mum started staying with us she kinda hates my husband that he eats meat ( meat wasnt cooked at home or he did not eat in front of her) and started spitting venom every minute. She complained about his caste and his family etc., one day she pulled up a full drama š when I am 2 days past my due date and the drama in the house lasted for 3 days and my husband and my mum got fired up and said disgusting words to each other. I was the only mediator. Post delivery 10days after my c section my mum managed to pull in another drama š and stopped eating her meals , stopped cooking meals, not helping us with the baby, slept in garage and gave us death threats all for no real reasons. She started bringing up my past relationships out of the blue and started to criticize my choices all when I am happily married and have a newborn. Its a beautiful phase for us in our life and all she did was ruined it for us. We respectfully asked for her to leave and booked her ticket. Since then she attempted to take sleeping pills and I stared to cry soo hard that my stitches broke and went into the hospital. My breast milk stopped suddenly and my baby had to switch to formula. My baby was taken care by my husband while he wfh admist this chaos. My baby started to lose weight and I started showing signs of depression. We had no help other than my toxic mom who finally agreed to leave and left one fine day. It was the hardest phase in my life. She went back started making calls to our family members and told so much against us. She spoke Ill of us to neighbors my sister in law .she also had the audacity to call my MIL and spoke badly about us. I stopped any kinda interaction with her and praying this phase will pass by. #depression #mentalhealth #mentalhealth
Thatās the problem with trying to skimp on help with healthcare. A professional will probably be far better.
So so sorry to hear this. And extremely surprising for a mother to do this. I can only imagine what u have gone through. Please take care of yourself, this is an important phase. Keep in mind this is making you stronger. Also you and your husband both please take some therapy. All this is past now, sending you good vibes.
She's completely in the wrong here. That's wild.
This too shall pass. Hope the kid can cheer you up in the meantime š
All because of being a non-vegetarian. Wow.
š„Nah, thatās total BS. I mean thatās a surface level trigger but she has PROFOUND psychological problemsāIām not even being remotely snarky or judgmental here. She seriously needs professional clinical help. OP, Iām so sorry for you and your family. Priority One: Heal yourselves first and foremost. Part of that process will likely involve an emotional severance. Wishing you the very best. Please report back with your progressā¦ ā¤ļø PS. Iām guessing the timing of your pregnancy is very much NOT a coincidence.
Indian Brahmins and their ick with non vegetarians is beyond me.
Dump your mom. What kind of people are these?
Should've mixed some pork and beef in her meals before she left.
Post partum is hard enough already without all the additional drama with your mom. The priority is to take care of yourself and your baby, so fortunately with your mom gone, you can focus on that. Know that it is very common to feel depressed during this time and itāll get easier Day by day. Lean on your husband, and lean on trusted friends. Take it one day at a time. You got this momma š
Just let it go. If any, my MIL was toxic (I am a guy) and she alienated my family from me and my wife. Played all kinds of games, 12th year of my marriage and I am still suffering. Your mom is out of US, so that's good. Focus on your kid and husband, keep your head down and this too shall pass.
What to do of these MILs? Mothers influence their daughters to do evil.
This is exactly what happened. My life would have been a billion times better. I kept fighting all the time to get my wife to do the right things. I am agnostic, but if I were religious - she would probably burn in hell lol.
She sounds like an awful person. No offense but you are probably better off without her in the picture.