Hi everyone I need help and suggestions. My boss and I have not been getting along for a while. earlier this year my boss put me on an unofficial pip, I didn’t want to lose the job so I tried to corporate and work with him to sort it out. Things were going well but after a sprint ends he told me that I was not meeting the expectation because my item got delivered one day after the sprint ends. He was like if you plan this better it would have been delivered on time, but in reality my coding part was done on Monday but the colleague who was assigned to review it was relunctant to review because he would then need to sort out the merge conflict and my boss was aware of the situation. I have Adhd (diagnosed in my home country), so I admit that I’m bad at planning… but I felt my boss was just trying to pick up on me to get rid of me from the company. I ended the 1-1 by getting frustrated and spoke to a doctor who then signed me off for having a severe depression. I took a couple of months off and thought I gained enough energy back to try again to fix the issues with my boss. As I thought things are going well, my boss once again started telling me that I spent one more day (compared with other sdes) on an investigative item thus not meeting his expectation. That was a on-call sprint for me and I handled the drqs'es and our initiative jira tickets on time. I felt frustrated again and spoke to a gp to get some anti-depressant to help me with my mood and sleep. The anti-depressant has strong side effect and caused tiredness/sleepiness during the day so I tried to speak to my boss who then referred me to the ER HR person, after we spoke about the recent incidents he told me that I will not be able to transfer team until mid year next year and offered me the mutual termination offer - 10 weeks of untaxed salary for the sake of mismatch between me and the company and also my mental health. And my company accesses are all suspended while I take time to think about this offer. I haven’t been interviewed actively for a long time so I don’t know the market too well and I’m on a working visa (was hoping to get my pr in a year). I know my personality probably makes unsuitable for the big coop environment, and one day I will have my own startup - but until then I do want to save enough money and gain as much experience as I could… I will need to make a decision by Friday morning - should I take the money and fuck off? If I stay, will my life be miserable in the company? the only written warning i got at the moment is that I am always 2 minutes late to the stand-ups... #tech #adhd
Take the money and F off. It will save some of your brain cells. If you stay you will be fired or laid off eventually anyway after some time. A company is not your mom, it does care about you only as long as you deliver. Once you stop delivering nobody cares about your mental health or any other reasons.
And I thought Bloomberg was relatively chill.
I would take the money take the money and immediately start looking for a new position. It seems like you’re aware of how your boss feels, so I think you can imagine what the outcome would be if you stayed. I also have severe ADHD and have had my fair share of struggles and can definitely understand where you’re coming from. It’s hard, but I hope that you’re able to find a new team that treats you right, and also hope that you’re able to get the mental health help that you need. It’s been hard for me as well, so if you ever need to talk to someone that will understand what you’re going through feel free to hmu!
US or London?
london
Get proof they are getting rid of you for having ADHD and then sue them.
If you don’t take the severance their next plan will be just straight termination. Sorry.