Unconscious Bias
There are people around me who say things that imply that men are innately better than women in coding. I actually don’t think it is on purpose, but they sort of slip out through conversations. For example, I have been told I am where I am because “I work harder than my peers” (male counterparts) as if I cannot be naturally “good” at software engineering. Anyone else have similar experiences?
How many hours do you put?
Some people believe in talent, others don’t. Get over yourself.
What is important to know is whether you indeed work harder than your peers or not. If you do, then it is simply a fact.
If you have to work harder than your peers you may not be in the right position or at the right company for you.
That doesn’t make any sense. If someone works harder and they get better results, then what’s wrong with that?
Don't worry about such things. Only losers care about their opinion on why they lost.
So you're a fixed mindset person who believes innate talent defines you. That can be very limiting.
Okay, you completely reworded the original post since I posted this.
Do you work harder than other team members? If not, let them know. Be bold.
What a joke. So someone is giving you a literal compliment and you’re taking it the wrong way because feminist told you to believe that everyone is unconsciously biased.
I think you are taking it the wrong way, your bias appears to be showing. It's of course entirely possible that others around you are biased that women aren't able to be engineers. But that compliment by itself doesn't imply anything to me. It just says you are the hardest worker there.
Umm I've been told the same thing and I'm a male :| I really don't think this is unconscious bias. They could just he referring to how fast you've grown in this team compared to most other people etc