Two of my friends who are in a relationship invited four people over to their house the other night for a dinner party including myself. After the party, they Venmo requested everyone who attended for the cost of the food. Is it just me or is this really fucked up behavior? I throw parties frequently where I buy drinks or pizza or whatever for people and think nothing of it. They’re my friends. Something about this just makes me feel cold towards them. It makes me not want to hang out with them, I see them less like friends now. Is this stingy on their part or am I just being old fashioned?
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Did you bring wine/dessert/drinks to this dinner?
I brought some beers. They clearly paid more for the party no question. Still seems weird to me
its really weird…
If it wasn’t shared beforehand I won’t pay and stop hanging out with these cheap fux
They’re rich too lmao, IPO’d startup people, you can’t make it up
It does sound like rich people behavior, ngl. Normal people usually don’t pull sht like this.
This more white people shit. Indians usually fight over paying for the dinner or picking up the tab themselves
What the freaking frock is that. Host shouldn’t be asking for money if they invited guests.
I totally agree. The understanding should be that next time it’s someone else’s turn to host, and it will more or less even out.
So what they did is pretty shit, but not offering to kick some in is kinda sus too
Absurd, if you are invited you are invited. If expectations are to share cost, they should inform earlier. It might be okay in some culture, though I doubt it
That’s just completely inhospitable. If you can’t afford to host a dinner party, don’t host a dinner party. I would either confront them or just ignore the Venmo request altogether.
Everyone’s view on money different. I don’t think their intention was bad.
would be ok (ish) if they told you in advance. not ok afterwards or even during
Even if in advance deep down I am sure I would see them as less close friends the instant they did that. It’s something unsaid that goes against the way I was raised.
I didnt mean in the context of the friendship, just in terms of what is appropriate behavior. I would never invite friends over and expect them to chip in UNLESS it was a group event everyone agreed to in advance and we just picked my place as the best one to hold it.
neither. it means they don’t want you to come next time
This is fucked up id they didn’t mention it beforehand
Yeah lol they hit me with it while I was driving home like wtf??
Even if it was beforehand I’d think it was pretty sus, but after give me a break