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Would you get offended by this or not? Witnessed an interesting exchange go down between colleagues who get along well at work but was surprised by the severe negative reaction.
This is what the insanity of intersectional oppression brings you.
Everyone talks about American shows, get over it. But, sure, judge them if it is a partisan hit piece.
What is the country? North Korea?
Funny you should ask. It was an exchange about k-drama from South Korea. The colleague excitedly said they started watching a K-drama without mentioning a name of a show and the other, who is American Korean, curtly responded with “I’ll pretend I didn’t hear that.”
An American Korean’s country would be America, not Korea. There’s a big difference between showing interest in an immigrants country of origin and ethnically stereotyping an American based on ancestry.
Second-generation American, so I might not be able to answer in the right perspective, but one of my friends who is racially different from me started to take interest in my mom's country. I found it entertaining to see what she was interested in learning about and thought it was cool when she said she'd like to visit the country. It was fun to hear her try to learn common phrases too. :)
The colleague may be ignorant here to associate you with a grouping of your ethnicity, and treating your country and it’s people as a monolith. That may cause discomfort. However, context is important here. The colleague is coming from a place of acceptance, excitement, and attempted connection. This is a great opportunity to share the similarities and differences from the show and your experiences.
This makes sense. The reaction really confused the one who excitedly brought up that they started watched a show from the other’s country without naming what the show was. I was surprised, too, and realized that I would not have anticipated that response had I been in their shoes. When people bring up restaurants or food from countries other than their own, for instance, usually I see the conversation exchange continue positively. Didn’t realize it could be offensive. Glad to know better now!
Sounds like the recipient of the dialog was probably an American, not an immigrant. What many people don't understand is what it is like to go through your life constantly being labeled as not belonging to the only country you've ever known. This is a soft form of that. Other common forms include things like "so, what's your favorite Chinese restaurant in the area?', "where are you really from?", Or saying simple phrases in the language of the country the person's ancestors are from (ni hao!). These are all ways to alienate someone who was born and raised in the US.
Yes. This makes sense. Might be better and safer to avoid conversations like that altogether given that the line can be so blurry for someone who hasn’t asked and finely understood the nuances ahead of time.
Or saying something as simple as "Your English is so good".
If it goes beyond just that they’re watching a show, it is aggravating. Had someone do this repeatedly to me and finally ask me if I feel white despite my mixed race/nationality.. he was racist and othered me but was always just borderline and not enough for HR to fire him. I’m extra sensitive to this shit now whereas before I took it as normal curiosity.
“Feel white”…what does that even mean?? Sorry you had to endure that.
It was probably either about passing as white or feeling like I belonged in white groups or what I select on demographic forms. I remember answering on autopilot but later realized it was a very strange question.
Your colleague is *checks notes* showing interest in your homeland? Gasp, the horror