bro pack rules
How to deal with dismissive manager and the overall bro pack rules? Only half listening to my ideas or proposals in meetings (i'm the only woman in the team), mostly replying to me with "you don't understand" but always supporting and nodding to each others ideas. I know i am competent at what i do, it is just that my every, even little "mistake" is picked up on and cashed in, while i don't see they would take the same standards and measures with each other. Getting pretty tired of feeling down and out..
Plain and simple: take your talent somewhere it's recognized
Problem is, they all say that in the interview process and you don't know for sure until you start teaming with them. Next one could be worse or better, just can't tell
Find a company with more women in leadership!
That’s just wrong on so many levels. You have a few options: 1) leave and go to more diverse company/team 2) try to be friends (coffee, lunch breaks) with 1-2 guys on your team and hopefully that would help 3) you could talk to your manager about how you feel. (You need to know how your manager will react before you take this step)
Talk to WSJ, like some ladies at VISA did
Does not Google have a streamlined diversity hiring? Go there if your ideas and quality of work matches your words.
Do the same - find their mistakes and call them out openly (including the manager). Make them see how toxic it can get.
Ask them for more details: "What exactly I don't understand? Can you please explain me? How would you implement this? Why do you think it's a bad idea?" I think the best way is just to prove them that your ideas are as good as their ones. I doubt that fighting, arguing or complaining will help in this situation. You just have to prove that you are as good as they are or even better.
Don't do this. In their mind, this will both make you 'incompetent' and 'painful'. Work to prove that you are competent by doing something cool: a prototype / solve a difficult problem. If it is too toxic, a conversation with your manager / HR may be in order to figure out a solution. Best advice above was, make 1-2 friends in the team. Dynamics will change.
Document. Everything. When the list gets long enough, take it to HR. Repeat as necessary. Talk to women from other teams. Organize a regular happy hour or something like that. Encourage them to document as well. And while you're doing that, look for a place with a better female-to-douchebro ratio.
I work for a manager who has targeted a new woman each year - and now it's me. Transfer teams or leave before it gets worse. Other managers have even gone to HR to try to remove my manager's poor performance rating (based on my behavior since my work is measurable and obviously fine), but it's near impossible to transfer with a low rating. I've learned the hard way that this bro-insecurity escalates and doesn't get better. I should have left after filing a complaint about this manager's yelling.
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I would get a coworker to chime in and say out loud that what you are saying is a good idea. It’s unfortunate you have to even do something like this.