It's an interesting observation that many of my H1B friends don't want to be friends anymore when they find out I'm a US citizen. I was born here but did most of my schooling in India and came back to the States for college. It's not immediately obvious that I'm American because my family isn't very well to do and my parents didn't raised us in an extremely Indian-middle class way. When I came to the States (on a loan), I connected the best with my Indian friends from India but as the years have gone by each and every one has slowly distanced themself from me after learning that I'm a US citizen. Any time I accomplished something in college, no matter how small, their first reaction was "Oh, but you're a US citizen". It feels more like competition than friendship. I never feel like I'm a part of the inner group no matter how much time we've spend together and eventually after all these years I've ended up unfollowing, unfriending, and blocking most of them because I don't want to be connected/nor do I want any future relationship with any of them. Interestingly, it doesn't seem like this problem persists amongst my female peer group and they (on a visa) are more accommodating of an American-born Indian girl but the same cannot be said about boys. Even with respect to the dating scene, Indian women don't date American-born Indian men but will either end up with another Indian from India or an American. Has anyone else (American-born) felt this way? How did you cope with this?
It should not matter much if you are citizen or not.. we loose our friend circle as part of growing up. I think you are thinking too much
Just jealousy over having something they want I was staying at a hostel in NYC for a couple weeks while I waited for my apartment lease to start All the tourists were fawning over everything and were down to chill Until they found out I was moving there permanently, then our circumstances were just too different. I was living their dream or maybe they thought I was a lower class homeless vagabond, doesn’t really matter does it
100% same experience
There is no inner group, these people would distance themselves the same way even if you weren't US citizen
thinking too much, have you tried real hard to hold the sand in your closed fist, it would rather slip away, make newer friends and live your life, life is too short for these vagaries
It’s all inside your head like most of the things are. People don’t usually care much about things that don’t affect them.
TC or gtfo
Common denominator is you as others mentioned. Time to look inside.
Find better friends. To be honest, i dont ask people their “ visa status “ before making friends.
What did you achieve in college ?
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You’re the common denominator
Doesn't happen with my American friends so I disagree with you
You should like a little L with these types of posts anyways