You? Sorry for being so doom and gloom, but I’m making realizations while traveling and realizing there was one thing my dad told me in middle school that I think has ruined my self-esteem and for that reason when someone pays me a compliment, I honestly think they’re talking about someone else and not me. When someone criticizes me, I know exactly who they’re talking about (me) #misc #mentalhealth #familysearch #parenting
What did your dad say?
Putting so much value on education. I got into google with no high school degree, and I felt like a failure for the majority of my life because of my parent’s single-value belief.
My dad called me “useless”. That was probably the one that hurt the most.
Same, Hurt at the time but now I realize that dude was bugging
Yeah, my dad has also done some damage on my self-esteem. I’ve been told I was too skinny all the way through high school. Then I was told I looked fat when I got to college. Now that I look back, my dad had serious issues because who said those things to their kids, like every other day?
now that I'm grown up there's so many things I question about my parents that I would never do to my kids in the future
Yup, same. I learned from my parents what’re the things I should not do
Constant high expectations since childhood and get reprimanded if I didn’t do it right, even for things that I had never seen before. As a result I’m now very cautious for every damn thing that happens and uncertainty panics me with that “I should’ve known it” attitude.
And honestly, haven’t that caution helped you any time in your life? Uncertainty panicking you is a different discussion and now you know that you have that issue what are you doing about it? I know there’s bad parenting impacting people but this is not even close to any of that! A bit more of caution is way better than erring on the side of pushing your child towards carelessness. Nobody’s perfect! Be happy they erred on the better side. Now that you enlightened about yourself, may be work on balancing it out.
Whoever said about bad parenting. My parents are awesome and they supported me unconditionally no matter what. Since op asked what has impacted negatively I’m speaking that inspite of their love, there were some negative impact on me. I’m still scared to ask questions in the work setting. I still doubt myself thinking that I haven’t done enough due diligence. I tend to overthink even simplest of things. The amount of thinking I do doesn’t justify the outcome usually, that’s what I’m trying to highlight. At this point without a therapy, I don’t know how to take care of this.
Should get a vax to get stronger
No, you’re wrong. I hope you realize you’re the one who’s weak, for picking on someone who’s so brave to open up about their past
The usual homophobic stuff, before they knew better.
I thought I was the only one good post
I don’t know what I did wrong in life, but you kids are clearly my punishment.
My mom used to try to get up on her cross like that too, my response was always, "should have kept your legs closed homie"
kicked me out of my home and left me homeless / hungry with debt, no job and little preparation
That’s awful.