Just ranting since I don't have someone to talk to: Spouse and I have been together 6 years. She commonly gets triggered, but is seeing a therapist and we're seeing a couples counselor. Anyways, things were good, we were cooking together and I was looking up songs on the phone to play. One song was playing and she says: "I like this song. They should play it at a wedding." I didn't respond, instead looking for the song on the phone, so she says "Did you hear what I said?" which I respond, "yes, it could be a great song to play at a wedding". She finishes with, "I'm angry now at you". After some questions why back and forth, she wanted me not around. For the rest of Christmas we spent apart. She slept on the couch, I went to the bed. Next morning I tried to be the bigger person to ask about it and say I don't like when this happens. She says I wasn't listening to her concerns about having a baby in the future, that's she worried, etc. Not the first time, she gets triggered once a month to a few times a month, so I'm used to it. I'm started to realize that I'm tired of it... End rant.
Hows your rub life?
Are you putting up with her because she is pretty?
No. The whole relationship isn't bad, but these moments aren't good at all.
Post without TC. I'm angry now at you.
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Donât have any kids till you sort this. Therapist and counseling in the mean time P.S: atleast you got the bed, I get the couch usually when we fight
She's putting a lot of pressure to have kids. She's 34 and extremely concerned at the time in her life.
The trouble with that is if you guys are truly incompatible, you are either stuck in a miserable marriage for 18 more years for the sake of the kids. Or you split and the kids deal with a split home which isnât optimal. I would consider waiting atleast a year and do therapy in the mean time.
Sorry that happened. Similar things in my marriage. I don't have any advice. Shit happens đ
Sounds like she is frustrated
Yeah, it's around me not thinking about what we need to do to have a baby together, like how it affects her body, etc. Ultimately, in our relationship, she's not happy that I don't take initiative or do action in our relationship (e.g. didn't ask her to move in with me or co-sign a car with her after a few months of dating).
Red Flags.
You could start up a whole new flag business with the number of red flags here
Shitty experience sorry to hear that was your Christmas. Is the therapy and couples counseling working?
Kinda, she used to get triggered a lot. Like stuff on TV, if we're walking. So its less. She tells me things her therapist tells her to help with triggers. Couples therapy I'm not sure is.
You are in for a world of pain and headache if you decide to have kids before figuring this issue out. Like foreal lol
Divorce
Lawyer up and start collecting documents
PIP her.