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L4 Google -> 45 interviews, 5 offers, AMA
I left. I hit burnout twice, both instances I chose to leave the company because upper management became very dependent on me absorbing 1-2 extra roles due to high turnover. This doesn't happen to all, but I did become the person who could 'take it on' because I could do my jobs quickly and learn fast. I tried several things before leaving 4 years+ of experience at these places, like dialogue over what my duties should be and which were getting impacted as a result of the extra work, I also discussed additional pay or promotion (I got both, but not always), tried to go to other teams (but your reputation can follow you if it's within company) and i tried to take PTO (never more than a week since the roles were so taxing on my teams).. however that only brought me back to bent up demand for more hours (worked weekends 12+ hr days). What's worse is people who would take up the roles I left, would leave the company shortly after and I would get the email of 'can you help while we find another replacement'. I hit a wall, and you can only imagine what that did to my personal life. I'm thankful the experiences led me to making many real friends, who cared about me and my well-being. I can't drink or smoke, it's a condition I have, but for others I met who were like myself, drinking, smoking, gambling became escspes..or they too left. If dialogue and alternatives didn't work, I became more vocal to put my foot down. The risk of getting a heart attack and not having a life led me to push for other companies, industries. Personally, the best upside to this, was that in between leaving these jobs I picked up certifications and my masters, because studying for those was easier than dying trying to wear a million tasks to nowhere. Those investments in my person, led me to better roles. What actions did the company take? None really, not more than what I pursued (more pay, promo, PTO) If you're in a situation where you're burnt out and can't get support, youre getting paid less than what you're working and the company is not assigning personnel to help, it's time to look to other teams, roles, companies, and say 'thanks...keep it dilusional' Otherwise you risk becoming the 'all-in-one' employee. At least that's my personal experience, good luck with yours OP
I can totally relate to this. It’s my own personality and work ethic to blame, I suppose - can’t fake it and always try to get things done. Actively looking to jump ship, but the Covid situation keeps making it worse and worse. Im not in tech, so the even harder to find a job right now
If you're set on upgrading, I'm positive you can do it. Covid has made jobs scarce (even in tech) and changing industries/teams tough, because the market is flooded with candidates, but it's possible. Defense, aerospace, tech and some medical background skills are interchangable. In my interviews and in teams I worked in, I met all of these mixed together. When I made up my mind to leave I practiced for where I wanted to go through interviews. You can network this way. I had interviewers who connected with me on LinkedIn even if I didn't get the job, and competitor recruiters began to reach out. I suggest this because once covid passes you would have adopted the language necessary to have organic conversations with future interviewers, be able to story tell relatable scenarios, and set yourself up for opportunities. There were places I didn't want to work for (horrible Glassdoor reviews) but I applied, took their interviews like a test, and then when I interviewed for the companies I wanted the preparation showed and I got offers (even during covid)
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Take adderall to keep burning on fumes... been there. You’re only prolonging the inevitable unless you plan on upping your dosage over time.
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Great timely thread for me and I appreciate it. My doctor just diagnosed me with exhaustion Friday. Working two full time roles at the same time and I had no time to get exercise regularly and was eating horrible just to say be time. We will see what my company says on Monday. I was working from 7:00 until at least 9:00 every week night and the. The weekend time was purely sleep to catch up for the next week. Vicious cycle.
Where are you guys working 2 jobs? Any tips on how to manage the time needed to both work and learn in both the jobs?
In my case it is one actual job as demanding as two
I left a job when I thought I got a great opportunity for an awesome company. I started working for this new company late last year and a month in, I was burned out with traveling and getting thrown to the wolves in one sink-or-swim situation after another one. I was getting panic and anxiety attacks and it was affecting my health notoriously. Before my 3rd month, after debating it in my head for days with many sleepless nights, I decided to resign, without anything lined up. I was so worried about my resume, the impact on my career, being a quitter, etc but in the end I put my health first. I gave myself 3 months to unplug and heal. I traveled a lot, tried new things, talked to a ton of people that I had lost touch with, etc. It felt wonderful. I started looking for jobs by late January, I had a couple of promising opportunities then Covid hit and they both fell through because of the uncertainty. I kept going at it but eventually found my current job and I’m now extremely happy. I learned a lot during the process and knew exactly what I wanted and more importantly made sure leaving my previous role prematurely was brought up during my interviews to ensure the same would not take place. There’s this stigma that we must work at all times, put long hours no matter what. But in the end none of that matters if you are not happy.
- Vacation time with no cell phone or work emails. - Go away from your work country. Reconnect with nature, taking a hike and breath. - Helping others also, being a volunteer is helping a lot to feel better. - Reduce the meetings and replies at work, everything can wait, at the end of the day, you are not saving life. - Do not create interactions with toxic people at work and cheap talk, ban it. - Start late, leave early for few weeks. - Get massage 2 times a week to release tensions. - Listen to calm music before going to bed. - Buy a new bed and new pillows. - Do 20 min of calm yoga. - Do 20 min of meditation telling yourself you are happy and relaxed. - Connect with people outside of work, often. - Make a gift, for yourself. - Daily sport is MANDATORY. Even 10 push-ups. It’s often lack of energy and sleep which is fueling the burn out.
There’s something depressing to me about having to tell yourself that you’re happy.
I understand. It’s a way to meditate and to think about positive things first and not let your brain to think about negative things for 20 min. It’s helping people with depression. It’s like a reset/recalibration of the brain if you prefer. Sometime, the brain doesn’t realize that you are actually happy due to chemical deficiency.
The downs can be especially dangerous if you’ve centered your entire life and identity around just one thing. I’ve seen people do it with relationships. I did it with a job. I learned the hard way that I need to create balance in my life and take care of my mental health... When I started crying randomly, I finally acknowledged that I needed to make a change. Crying sporadically wasn’t the worst symptom of anxiety for me, but it was the hardest one to hide. I flew home to be with family for an extended weekend. I got on antidepressants. I took a leave of absence and surrounded myself with supportive friends and family. I started sleeping normally and exercising. I was extremely fortunate that I had the means to take time off work... It took time and patience, but I got my real self back. It got worse before it got better — I felt guilty for taking time off from pushing my career forward. Spending more time with family, friends, and medical professionals was key. They reminded me that I have value just for being me. I’m not some kind of mechanical machine. My value is not based on how much work I produce or how much money I earn... In an attempt to avoid my new worst fear, I now ask myself all the time, Are you excited to get out of bed and take on the day? The day can be difficult and full of problems — but are you energized about tackling the challenges ahead? The excitement for life now can come from work or something else entirely: fun plans with friends, finishing a book, volunteering, anything. I don’t think I’ll ever feel fulfilled or be great at what I do unless I can answer yes to those questions around energy. — Full article: https://link.medium.com/OzcpSappr8
Thanks - I recently experienced the exact same thing
I’m going through the exact same thing right now — so thank you for this
This is great advice.
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