Without going into too much of a rant, basically my therapist says I have depression anxiety and adhd due to work related stress plus life and relationship stress. He said I would benefit from some time off from work to help my mind get better. My performance at work is atrocious for the past year. I currently have an IR from my last review which is causing even more stress. I suck at my job and the only reason I even got this job was I grinded LC for 3 months straight. I feel incompetent at work and always feel like a bother to my teammates. My adhd hampers me from focusing on my tasks and organization. It takes me much longer to understand things in the codebase vs a regular person. I feel like I made a mistake coming to a tech company and should just stick to regular companies that are boring but low stress. I have some savings for at least 6 months. And can do cobra for insurance if needed. I would like to quit and do nothing for a month and go visit my family. Then start interview prep and increase my skill set over the period of 3-5 months. would that big of a gap be a turn off to potential companies? I'm especially concerned with all the hiring freezes going on. Please let me know if anyone has gone through something similar and has any advice. Current level: 60 Yoe: 3 TC: 115k #depression #mentalhealth
Put your health first.
Couldn’t you request for long leave of absence due to medical?
I have started the paperwork for it however I'm not sure if it will be accepted since my therapist is not a doctor. Also I'm not sure if HR will allow it with an IR on record
Hey OP, I’m in the same boat and applied for short term disability and it did get approved with just my therapist filling out the paperwork. I suggest asking HR for your benefits contact, they were more helpful to me than my HR partner was.
You dont have to quit. You could take fmla leave.. they have to hold the job for you until you get back
I have applied for that but no guarantee I will be given it. Also when returning I would still have an IR on record which will hamper me.
changing jobs and joining after a gap could be an option?
I was in your spot a few years ago and quit with any a year saved up. It was great at first but as others have said the stress of no job catches up. You’re better off getting let go via IR then quitting since you at a minimum can get unemployment.
Take FMLA for 12 weeks; and also apply for short term disability. Do that now. Then come back and see where next; your company may decide to bless you with a severance package to leave. But in the near term, you get 3 months to focus on healing, with health benefits and guaranteed job on return (and no gap in employment during that window).
^This. Apply for all the leaves. De-stress. Then prep and interview for new job. You will land in a better place. Don't worry about 3-5 month 'gap' in worst case, no one will care if you do well on interviews. Taking some time off for personal reasons (health, family, etc) during covid times will not be a deal breaker.
This ^
If you do leave, look into using the ACA for health insurance. COBRA is expensive.
It’s not and should not be a turn off at all. Spending a period of time to reconnect with yourself, family, and ideals is time well spent. That time will pay dividends in providing you with clarity on who you are, what drives you, and what makes you happy. It’s a sign of bold maturity to pursue that course if you feel it is necessary rather than aimlessly and tirelessly slogging along what may be the wrong path. Spend time to rebuild and strength yourself.
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Savings for 6 months isn’t nearly enough. Imagine the 100x stress when you are 2 months away from having $0 in your account and still looking for a job. Save for another 6 months at least before leaving your job
I'm not sure if I will make it another 6 months both mentally and at work. With an IR on my record I'm on a short leash
With that TC working for a couple of months and managing your expenses well should result in enough savings for another 6 months. If you think your job is stressful then you don’t want to experience the stress of being jobless and without money. Don’t do it