27, European living in NY almost 3 years. Feeling at a weird spot in life. Coming and going home to Ireland is never enjoyable with visas and customs, even though I’m legal it’s challenging at times. Thought in 3 years here I’d have found a boyfriend and feel more long term settled but I’m finding dating apps exhausting and haven’t met one person I feel mutual excitement and connection with. Feeling lost and don’t know how to meet someone, feel more at home, be less lonely. Any tips for people who felt lost at a similar junction around finding relationships, love and fun? Where to meet people in New York? I’m pretty sociable and love to go to bars, work out classes, etc but I’ve had no luck. TC: 350k #Dating #NewYork #friends #lost #misc #girl #NY #NYC #life #TC #date
In same boat 😂
Do you have any hobbies?
You're a European woman making all that money and can't get a man? Are you fat or something
Hey there, I totally empathize with this feeling. I know there’s a lot of others feeling this way so you’re not alone. That said, I think you’re at an advantage and disadvantage in NYC but for different reasons. For one, I think making friends is an advantage but I think you need to look at social clubs like meetup.com, ask coworkers what they do after work and ask to join, or find a group or activity that seems out of your comfort zone. Dancing is always a good time and so is recreational sports! Regarding dating: I’d focus on trying to meet friends and then your social circle expands to be a bit easier to find potential dates through social events. However I hear nyc dating is tough. Everyone is trying to find the next best thing. I suppose just try to find someone who is willing to put the time in to get to know you. That’s a tall order, I know, but try to frame each other’s expectations when you’re looking for dating or people. Don’t expect results immediately. Home is your community and it takes time to build your community.
Hey OP, I was in the exact same position at the exact same age. And when I'd kind of stopped looking, is when I met someone. New York was a good place for one night stands and the like, but hard to find someone nice/smart etc for a serious relationship. Advice would be to stop looking and then it happens.
Lower your bar, girl. Your high TC is a curse not a blessing. No girl will lock up Chad in this dating market, because he has so many options. Find some social hobbies, be more approachable, send clear signals if you are interested and lower your bar. Being a girl in this era and not finding a guy, is like playing a game in tutorial mode and not being able to finish it. So lame. You should thank god you were not born as a short guy. They live life in a nightmare mode.
Ask your parents for arranged marriage
More and more, this seems to be less unacceptable to me. 3 years ago I would have scoffed at the idea, now, I'm not so sure.