I apologize in advance for the rant but I feel a need to vent. I am not the self pitying type but talking about this makes me less stressed. 27 yr old Indian male on H1-B, currently visiting home. While at home, I cannot enjoy spending time with family, I had to work according to US time and sleep here in the daytime. Fights with my mom and brother every few days. I have a really bad dust allergy and hate going outside in my own home country. The car and construction pollution is absolutely horrendous. I literally feel suffocated here. Its not just pollution, everything f**king sucks here, I had to spend 7 hours in 2 days at our local RTO/DMV to get my Indian license. It sucks to drive here, it sucks to walk here. Weather in Mumbai sucks. My brain always compares and tells me to go back to US, coz everything is just so much better there. Family is forcing me to get married, they do not approve of my relationship because she is not from the same caste and community, not vegetarian etc. Company started the GC process but its going to take forever for me to get it. In that time I have to stick with this company. Don’t get me wrong I am actually a little happy that most probably I am keeping my job in this downturn. My manager is also good, these are some silver linings. But being on a visa I have to waste money on rent, till date about 50k have been wasted on rent, which could have been a nice down payment towards a home. I feel like I don’t have control over my own life, I feel very constrained. When I am in US, I miss my mom and brother, even though we have fights, I love them and want to stay with them forever. It would have been so nice if we all would have already been in the US. I feel stuck, I want to take care of my family but also don’t wanna leave the US. Its getting very frustrating, and then there is pressure to getting married, visa woes etc. Thank you for listening to my ted rant. YOE:4 YOE at company:1 TC:110k
My 2 cents. You are 1 of the spoilt kids who wants the best of both toffees and when he doesn't get it he goes on a rant. You have a job, you have family, you have loved ones. But you want to focus on fights, GC and developing world's problems. Man up. Make a decision and accept the side effects of such a decision.
Ok
Burn your passport and stay back in India permanently.
I empathize with you. If you have good job in US and like living there then stand your ground. Don’t give into these external pressures. Your family will be upset at first but then they will adjust. If you give in now, you might feel ok for a year or so and then you will start to really regret your decision. If you want to talk more, you can DM me. I moved to US when I was 23 and been working here for 8 years now. I was in a similar situation and I have given these issues a lot of thought.
OP if you are in MCOL or LCOL you can buy house on H1 if your job is relatively stable. GC wait for Indians is there. Expect 15-18 years from your PD to get GC. Dont believe the 50 or 100 year hype as nothing goes linear and India will get spillovers once every 4-5 years which will move dates ahead in bursts.
Ok