I'm a single income married Indian at Amazon, with a great wife and an amazing Toddler. Prior to the pandemic life was good, I had a few good friends living next door, a job with decent WLB, worked in a non-Tech industry with ok pay and Great career prospects. When the pandemic hit, I continued to work there and moved to Amazon (bored at the previous firm) in 2021. Life was good, we had a kid and I was making more than twice what my previous firm paid. Overtime the toxic culture started to stink. I have no friends at Amazon, anyone I like working with moves to a different team or firm, people are constantly trying to deliver/earn more/stay away from PIP, there is a lot of work, there is no non-work topics or engagement at all in my 1 year so far, team events are also badly organized, employees leaving don't even get a decent farewell (we send lazy miss you, good luck cards), etc. As I look back, some mistakes I made were: - over working myself - constantly scared of PIP though I am a good/great performer (confirmed by peers, manager, etc.) - Not going out for sports (I've never been a sports guy, now I wish I should've done it to build a community/engagement outside of work) - didn't goto the gym/stay active (put on 20+ lbs in 2020, 2021 and 2022 so far. Now I am less confident of my attire given the flab for any social gathering) - Didn't actively try to get my wife a social setting to engage herself in at the new location. With the kid life has been busy, I supported her as much as I could and parents were here on n off. But we didn't have friends in the new location, old friends are amazing but having someone close we could meet every week would have been a life changer. - Missed my family extremely during the pandemic, I realized that I make good $s now (after I joined Amazon), it's a blessing in disguise to move back home. My India pay is going to be very comfortable when I go back. Here's what I am doing: - Looking internally to a switch to a team in Seattle/SFO which has significant presence in India and a solid roadmap. I am in conversations right now. I will move here and wait till new comp kicks in 2023 to carry my RSU n move to India. - my wife n kid will visit India for a month, she feels lonely here and I think it would be better for them to fly home for a bit. I will join them for a short duration and come back together. - I will hit the gym starting this week. - I am going to an Indian movie this week with a few folks from an Indian slack group at work. Maybe I can relate to them and have a few friends. - I will pick a sport in the next few weeks and weather is improving so it will get better. - Constantly thinking of opportunities for my wife to engage here (we are also considering her moving for good to India in 2nd half of 2022 with our kid and finding a job there. She quit her job in India when we got married, long story. I will stay away from them for 3-4 months and then return for good. Parents and our support system in India is great. They'd love to have her n my kid back.) TC: 280-300, YOE: 8
Same here BOSS !! It’s been 10 months and work seems to never end at Amazon. Everyone seems to run behind something and it is very tiring. Amazon is definitely not a fun place to Work.
I hope that works out for you. Sounds like a good plan given how you’re feeling. Do you think things would have been different if your spouse was working, had their own social group and a workplace to go to? (All above in US)
When we got married our understanding was that I moved back to India in 2-3 years, she wanted to take a break as well for 1 year. Then we were planning a kid before she returned to the workforce and that happened during the pandemic. Moving back to India is a certainty, she definitely would've had a better time if she worked here and had some friends. But the way things worked with wedding, break, pandemic, pregnancy, etc. Just made it hard for her to train, interview and commit to a job. No regrets, but moving back to India sooner for her will be better as her work experience will get her a job easily without the visa hassle. And our family misses us too, the kid has been something both my and wifes parents have been crying about all the time that they don't get to spend time with. It works best given our situation. Social group here would've just made our lives happier without changing the India move date.
Last few years been rough and definitely the winter adds a new dimension to any existing struggles. Feels so much easier to climb out of a hole when the sun comes out in spring. Glad to hear you're on the right path and moving forward with some actions! I think prioritizing community, hobbies, family and all that is worth it over money now that you're making around over 250k. At this level of income you start hitting diminishing returns quite quickly when trying to get more. Keep up the progress and focus! Seeking balance and love will only lead to good fortune!
I think you are taking a sensible step op. Money is not everything. Have a question though: what do you think your Amazon comp will be in India?
1.2-1.4 cr depending on what base will be offered My stocks will be carried over but the base will be lower.
I expect to have ~28-34 stocks vest after revised comp in 2023 and a similar # in 2024. If you use 3400*30*78= 79 lakhs. So I am expecting a low base between 45-60 lakhs. None of this is confirmed, I am just using my current salary and extrapolating with multiple assumptions (that I think are sensible)
Your screen name jeevitham doesn't help. You need to add positivity to all aspects of life. Get some work ex with Amazon and then move on to better things.
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🤣 Come on man, you know what I meant
Sorry op. Not trying to be a d**k, but this cracked me up. Lol. I keep thinking about how life would be better in India than here in so many ways