I know this must be 100000th post related to this topic but i cannot decide and spoiling my brain with the thoughts. You can make fun out of me but please give me a valuable suggestion too. I am 26M living in Bay area. Indian ( who else lives here). It has been 2 years almost since i started my new job. I have a really good team here, good project, occasional work pressure, good car, decent savings. But i have never been on dates at all. Not even one date. I know its more male population. Looks wise i would say 5-6/10. 5’7’’ height, in a perfect shape shape but dark indian skin though. So, my dating life has been absolute disaster and my mental health is affecting because of this and even thought of committing suicide. Dont even have friends at all. All i do is work, sleep, gym, go to bars, get rejected by girls, come home crying. This has been the story for all the two years. I have never even touched any girl in my 26 years except the girls in strip clubs. Coming to the topic, should I consider moving out from Bay area to NYC or any other city where dating is decent for average guys. I am really concerned that if i would mess up what i have currently and end not having best dating life in NYC. Many people told its good for dating but is it worth moving out?? Also do i get success there considering i have decent game and decent profile? I have debt of 200K on my shoulders also i should take care of my joint family financially back in my country. with the Base pay of $150 K should I survive in NYC ? How is dating life in Santa Monica or Washington DC or Austin or San Diego?? Please dont say i cant do better anywhere if i cant do at bay area. What should i give priority? My job and team my savings, luxurious apartment here ? Or Dating life with less money? Does dating life really work for me if i play my cards right?? I have absolutely no hopes in bay area no matter what i do. May be i have to burn my money in strip clubs, occasional visits to Mexico, Amsterdam. TC: 150K only base. Yoe : 1.8 yrs
Are you open to dating other nationalities or just indians? If Indians only option is Bay Area or arranged marriage
Ofcourse i am open to anyone. Indians would be better for long term but they dont seem to be interested in me. But i dont have any issues with any nationality as long as she is a girl. Yeah. I would go for arranged marriage eventually and i know i wouldnt be happy with that i would get a girl whom i will be unhappy with.
Wait so you want to date marry right, or this is just fun dating where you date a non-Indian and later marry an Indian in the community of your parent's choice? Please don't do this, I have seen a bunch of my non-Indian acquaintance complain about how Indians date non-Indians but only marry Indians in the end.
Yes, live your life, you can always move later when you’re ready to settle
Yes
Can I coach/try to help you?
Sure!!!! I would love to take advices.
Atlanta Georgia.
How about arranged marriage? It will be tough in America for you
Thats my worst case option.
Try different apps and websites. Maybe coffee meets bagel? Before moving to nyc, can you try traveling there to see if it’s a fit? Maybe also consider checking out Boston? Sorry to hear about your difficulties. I could see how things could be particularly difficult for Indian men. A lot of Indian men I know — even ones born in the US — met their wives in India. Although it seems unfair and unreasonable, is that an option these days? May you find a happy and fulfilled life, and a home full of family and joy.
Thanks for nice words.
NYC was great. I was a fat slob and broke and met my wife within two and a half years. Had lots of dates. It was amazing. Also: go to the gym.
It's not SO bad in the bay that you can't get any dates. I'm sorry to say but if you can't get a single date here then you're unlikely to find success anywhere.
That hurts.. Can you tell me any ways i can get dates here? I believe i have decent pics in my profile with the best i could have. But i cant do anything much. I tried cold approaching but no luck whatsoever.
Actually it is so bad in the bay, I had 1 date in 1 year, despite a 50 mile radius setting on Hinge.