saying no to others
ive observed that i hate directly contradicting or saying no to ppl i consider friends or allies, and it shows in all areas in my life. on paper i have done plenty to go for what i want (ending relationships heading nowhere, not blindly listening to my parents, not being discouraged by bombed interviews) however its still been hard truly being myself and telling ppl what i actually like and want. ive got good friends/family/relationship but time and time again i am afraid to be honest and usually means i get emotionally volatile and feel suffocated despite no one actually stopping me with ppl who are not my friends or allies its easy to say fuck em and disregard. but you cant treat everyone in ur life like tjat Anyone have similar experience ? dont feel like im headed down a good path if i keep doing this, pretty young right now so i feel like there is time to change
Does the inverse happen? When friends or allies say “no” to you, do you think they are fucking you over and disregarding you?
no :< it seems reasonable
Aha. And yet you feel like you are saying “fuck em and disregard” when you say “no”? Who taught you this? Were you raised that you have to say “yes” to others or else you are being a bad person?
Make everybody your enemy - saying no will become trivial for you
It's called people pleasing
idk i dont have all the usual people pleaser traits youd expect