I caught my wife having an affair with a 14 years younger guy. They are talking about sleeping together and the fantastic sex they're going to have. Worst is it is not a one night stand. She says why can't she love 2 people at once? She says I'm the reason for her looking out because I have my own issues and she was supportive throughout where no one in her shoes would have (she is right). She wants to continue her marriage but want to have an affair as well. What should I do ?#depression #mentalhealth #marriage #endmylife TC 220k
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No wonder you work at Amazon
Take the French philosophy that humans naturally search for sexual novelty. This is only human OP
Sounds like typical west coast experience 🥲
Therapy and if that doesn't help: Divorce. Or just skip to the divorce, especially if you don't have kids.
I have one 3 year old :(
Honestly, just divorce and be a great dad. It can be done. Be great parents and let the marriage go if it’s already gone this bad. You don’t have to end it ugly. Let the cheating go. Give her half your stuff. Focus on your kid. Enjoy a happy life. You’ll make more money. You will be happier without a wife that doesn’t value you. A divorce doesn’t mean a bad childhood. A unhappy marriage is a lot more likely to mess up the kid.
Consenting polyamory is not a bad thing…it’s not for everyone though. She is correct, you can love more than one person. Define boundaries and stick to it.
This is something you discuss before marriage not after 12 years of marriage. Of course people can change with time so an initially monogamous person can become poly, but OP doesn’t have to go along with it.
> Define boundaries and stick to it. She already made it clear what she thinks of his boundaries seeing as he found out about this. If she actually respected his boundaries she would have sat him down and had a conversation about how she's developed some desires she wants to explore.
Difficult problem man ! But in my humble opinion solution is really you have to decide are you going to be ok or bring this up every time and make both your life miserable. Best of luck on whatever you choose
It’s quite simple really. You should divorce her.
What therapy?? just fkin divorce and move on.
Your marriage is over. Delete Facebook, lawyer up, hit the gym. It'll get better.
Get some life. Ohh sorry you work at HPE.