Context: I graduated from a tier I college and tried my luck in business for a while which didn't work out. Then I prepared for SWE roles and landed an offer in a start up. I worked there for a while, got married and got an offer at Indeed. My wife graduated from a low tier college and got a 3.5 package offer and she has been working there for more than 2 years. (I don't want to reveal her company, coz my colleagues could find me out, but she works in one of Infosys/techM/TCS/WIPRO). She told me that her manager and team lead are always shouting at her. She sometimes cries due to this, I am so pissed at them. Apparently, their team is pretty toxic and she is very scared to even say a word against them. I asked her if she wants to stop working there and try to find a new job somewhere else or another project in the same company. But she is reluctant to do that. She feels she isn't that good at coding and she is scared to even learn. I offered her multiple times, but she always rejected. She also doesn't want to stop working, which I fully support, but I can't see her crying sometimes and feel bad when their manager or team lead shouts at her. I am not sure what I should do? Should I convince and teach her coding? Should I atleast convince her to change teams/project? Please help me out! YOE: 1.5 TC: 44L
1.5 year experience and you are married 😳
I took a break and tried doing family business for a while. I didn't like it and COVID hit us hard. So, I moved to a job now.
If she is not into coding then don't force her. Try some other areas like PM, analyst, testing etc roles based on her interest. Coding is not every one's cup of tea.
Nowadays, even manual testing roles require coding skills.
If she doesn't like CS and office culture, try some business for her which interests her. If she is not happy with what she is doing, she cannot continue this for long. Forcing her to do something is only going to impact your personal life.
how old are you guys btw looks like in your 20s
Yes
Your wife’s situation is extremely common. Most Indian women suck at coding and it’s not practical for them to get a good paying tech job. Has she considered doing an MBA and getting into a different line of work?
https://youtu.be/DDuw7oHp95I?si=vUjCKPhUQqc-UkAR you can find more such videos and actual interview experiences also, for specific profiles
Ask her to join scaler and improve her swe skills.
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Better to switch company.. There are companies which is having great wlb..
Is it possible? She doesn't have any experience in coding. What should her roadmap be? Can you suggest or share any experiences?
you are a good person at heart what she needs more is your emotional support once she is confident about her capabilities, she can start applying looks like she is more scared rather than anything else you have to act as her biggest cheerleader, till she gains her confidence start giving her small tasks like getting ready her resume etc and slowly nudge her to take 1-1 step ahead rather than forcing her into coding coaching