I wish I had been born a trust fund baby. Relying on myself is so hard - maybe I’m just weak or in a bad mood or both. But sometimes I wish I had someone I could rely on financially so things didn’t feel so hard. I have friends and a partner but that’s just not how things work. End of day - in a non cynical way - you need to support yourself and be able to rely on yourself while still being cheered on and encouraged by your friends etc. I know if something went crazy wrong they’d have my back But just trying to grow your career and save for things. It feels so hard and endless. Anyone agree? Am I just being a little b*tch lol Tc 230
At that TC, you are doing fine Cheer up!
Thanks bro 🙏🏻 I am trying. I think today just got the best of my mood
Be a man! Read some books, study history. Read the book as a man thinketh.
Can I still be a man if I’m a woman 😭 I know I need to toughen up this way but I like being a soft girl otherwise I will look at it. And re read mans search for meaning 🙏🏻 ty
Find an old sugar daddy
I didn’t say I was a girl in the OP for a reason. Wanted actual commiseration or advice since I think men relate more to this than most women
If you’re a man or woman you can still find one lol
There are a lot of us in the same boat OP. 230k seems to be the magic number that the powers that be decided is enough to keep you in the Bay Area, barely making it. In before the "this is a lot of money" brigade: it's not a lot for a place in a good school district and after school care for 2 kids. Single parent, so I need the childcare.
You’re being a little bitc*. I was sub 200k tc until 35 years old. Just recently jumped to 300k 2 years ago and close to 400k now. Life is a lot easier
Are you feeling burned out? This is very common. Just take a break and use those PTOs. I feel burned out sometimes. When this happens, I would just spend a few days doing literally nothing. It’s okay to take a break and just relax!
I sort of do but idk why. I will consider this. I just want to not feel like I’m struggling financially lol
Become gay and find a sugar daddy.
25 315TC. I feel this all the time after talking to my much more extroverted friend who knows all sorts of rich trust fund kids. I am on track to spend my entire 20s penny pinching and missing out on experiences in the hopes that I can retire in my 30s then play catch-up. Meanwhile these kids of billionaires are traveling the world and only working a job out of sheer boredom. And at the same time, there's people out there who will never make more than 80k and are happy. Point is, life isn't fair and everyone's starting line is different. We all have to be realistic and carefully select the compromises we can tolerate. I think the difference between us tech people on blind vs the guy making 80k is that we have this false illusion that we are so much closer to a trust fund life whereas 80k guy is not even entertaining the idea of such a lifestyle. Because we're "closer", the pain of not actually having that life is so much worse. But in reality, we're no different or better than 80k guy. All we can do is change our expectations.
I much rather be someone who generates money than someone who simply spends money. When I see a trust fund baby I can’t help but think that if they didn’t exist the world would have more money available for other endeavors. That the world is better off without them.
I actually enjoy working. I just don’t enjoy the stress of finances right now
U make 230k a year. Why do you wish this
Because it’s just not enough lol. I worked in research until I was 30 and had no savings. Now I’m trying to make up for lost time But I feel like so trapped. I don’t travel. I just grind. I feel like terrified of everything - ageism, getting laid off, finding my next job, shaping my career to maximize income etc You’re right. I should be grateful. I am. But I have these anxieties keeping me up
You are grinding at block 🤷♂️ you are at the best company to work 4 hours and do whatever you want getting paid well. You should Get some perspective