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Do you guys have tips on how to build confidence and not fall victim to imposter syndrome. #mentalhealth #careerbuilder
Start with small accomplishments. Learn that there are lot of garbage programmers, as in any other field. If they hired you then you are just good to go. Do not compare yourself with people with stronger background (for example, you may have peers that code since they were 12 and you started in college, it is obvious he will be better than you).
Wise words
Take it one step at a time. Patience is the key. If you are learning something, learn it e2e don't just stackoverflow it. And, forgetting is normal, revise. Pick something small..learn practice revise move. Follow this cycle.
Highly recommend Amy Chua's 3 principles book here. A little dose of the impostor syndrome should actually be okay as long as it keeps you moving. If you mean confidence in communication, my key is preparation -- read, reflect and rehearse as much as possible. Most of the amazingly brilliant and seemingly-impromptu comments I see have a lot of conscious or unconscious preparation behind them.
Preparation thats a good point. I do that too. However i feel i spend too much of time on it. Preparing before every meeting is not a scalable model. How do you prepare?
The imposter syndrome has limited me and I need to figure out ways to not it stop me from reaching full potential. And great point on preparation, I still need to have the right confidence to execute. I suppose I am in my head too much
Build confidence by doing the things you know you're supposed to do and do that everyday.
Confidence isn't something that goes up and down. It's an expression of anxiety about a problem in your life, given physical form by your subconscious. It's derived from actual issues, and it's a way of signalling to everyone else in a hunter gatherer tribe that you're struggling. So they can give you a pat on the back. Ultimately you need to go out and fix the actual issues. Exercise, sleep, diet (leafy greens with lemon and olive oil, no starch, proper Palio) are the basics. Then figure out ways to socialise more. In person, your subconscious doesn't count zoom calls or instant messaging. Try and make some strong friendships and relationships where you can truly be honest with someone, and talk about yourself honestly. Then kill an animal and cook it yourself. Etc etc.
If you are specially talking about the lower confidence of anxiety in meetings 1. Prepare well ahead of the meetings 2. What you want to get from meeting , how are you planning to contribute to the meeting 3. Take notes 4. Think that you are the best because not many people do 1-3
I am a literal imposter, I always go for roles I'm not qualified for at all. I just see it as a game to see if I can pull it off. Everyone is bluffing.
for sw engineering roles?
Me too and I'm regretting it. Feels like just last year I was being carried through CS group projects. I briefly hustled at a startup but my last 2 big company roles have been a mix of entirely ineffective team/slow/carried again. I've literally cheated/been carried/weaseled/leetcode easied my way to 170k TC. 800K net worth and am now a bundle of mental issues in my late 20s... Recently set the goal to actually incorporate (slow and) steady learning into my routine. I want to feel competent in order to feel good about myself and have a life
On the opposite end of the scale do no preparation , learn to improvise and think on your feet. I did a few years of improv classes, teaches you now to think fast and talk confidently (at least in delivery) about anything. Vastly improved nearly every aspect of my life.
Think fast on my feet, so fake it till you make it 🤔
Get good at lying because if you're a good at lying you're good at everything.
Exercise, having hobbies outside of work, taking time to socialize outside of work, and not comparing yourself to others.
Comparing myself has been a struggle and I realize it has been effecting my confidence, thank you