He pings me about micro-managey stuff every day after hours, we talk several times during the day every day. Our 1:1s always run over and extend by 30 mins, and he meets with me atleast 3 times a week. I’m one of the better performing devs so it’s not a performance concern, and I’ve heard the same thing from colleagues. Just got another ping from him to check the pipeline for something trivial, and wanted to rant on blind. TC - 300k L5
Turn off notifications
Turn off your manager and throw away the charger. That's not human.
Lol
Leave Amazon. Problem solved.
Need time to study leetcode. The team is in a huge time crunch to meet a deadline. Will need to do it after that or it’ll be very noticeable. I also don’t think the market is that hot yet
That’s some important context. If team is in a huge crunch, you’re working on critical components and they see you online, I wouldn’t be surprised to get questions. It does seem like there’s a certain lack of trust by your manager. I wouldn’t call it good, but I also wouldn’t call it surprising.
Are we from the same team? This is what my manager do all the day. Especially annoying unnecessary meetings every day that takes up the entire day.
Could be
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Did you give him a bad rating during connection feedback?
Yes
Is he foreign? Usually a cultural problem where they “own” their directs
Set boundaries. After 5pm your off. Dont respond at all even if you see it. If he pings you, just say you've set a hard stop at 5pm because your mental health was taking a hit.
Yes.
Agree except I'm not sure I'd say mental health was taking a hit. I respect that, but people for whom life is work may not. You could say you need to balance a bit or something to that effect. Or give no excuse and just respond during working hours.
You can try a couple of things - passive aggressive: Tell them you are busy with family/friends and will get back to them asap. Respond at 1am for fun or at 9am. - preferred and Subtle approach is to respond at 9am in the morning. You do that a few times and they will understand.
I like the second one more. I have mentioned to him a couple times that my wlb is horrible and I need to focus on family and health, he just says take the rime you need but will ping me at 7pm right on that day, haha
And you don’t ignore the pings. Kinda your problem then. Why are you being so obedient to your manager?
Set boundaries.
Easier said than done, especially when your manager says the team is expected to stretch
Ew, find a new manager