My husband left me after more than a decade together and we recently had a baby. I am late 30s and he seems to be involved with his much younger coworkers. How do I recover from this? There is no one left to date at my age, everyone is married and trying for kids while my husband runs around. Im supposed to be pregnant with #2 and he just checked out over the last year and left me to raise our kid. The dating pool is pretty narrow in terms of men who make similar money and intelligence. Dating apps seem like a mess and how will I even find time to date? I’m living in a nightmare.
Like, are you serious.
Well first of all relax. Life isn’t over. You have a sweet baby. A baby who needs you :) I’d rather be single at 38 with kids than not personally. I’d find meaning from that And if you want to partner up again, do so because you want to, not to lessen the sting of a partner leaving you for someone else. You’re okay whether or not he wants to be with you and it says more about him than you. This is sort of a bad place to come for advice as the men here seem to really… not like women. I think it’s one thing to think we are lessen than, and another to be sort of mean and rub misfortunes in their faces. I feel like I see people remarry all the time. And anyway very few people get this perfect relationship that lasts their whole life. I certainly won’t get that. That’s ok :) take it all one day at a time. Don’t tell a story to yourself about the past or the future.
First -Are you still married or divorced?
Still married but divorce in progress
Take care. All will be well. Why is high level of intelligence in your next partner important? Is love, care, and commitment not enough? Do you mean to date only techies or something like that assuming techies are somewhat more intelligent?
Similar situation here 🤚 two kids finishing 5th grade. It happened just before Covid and that kind of threw things into an odd situation. Focus on yourself and your kiddos. At first I started trying to date but WFH made it a challenge and the dating apps suck! I gave up and decided to just put my head down and better myself and hopefully good things will come soon. I’m in the process of a career change and have been grinding out gaining new skills/certificates in Data Science.
I agree There was a time when I was using dating app only for hookups. Single Moms were my easiest target because they were desperate. I matched with several and when I met the first and talked to her, her situation broke my heart. She had spent lot of effort and planning to have someone babysit her child and mentally she was not in a good place. She had come to meet me with lot of hope. I felt bad. Did not “hookup”. Just had dinner and talk.
Thank you for being a good human.
All of that yapping would've killed my erection too.