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28 yo virgin

Yelp cray.cray
Jan 28

I've been busy all my life with studying and work, and now realize that I'm getting old. I know starting a family will make me happy because I like responsibility. But I'm an introverted extra sensitive 'nice guy' with no experience with women whatsoever. How do I even start?

I'm black 5'10" 180lbs 240k TC.

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  • Amazon MiaKalifa
    Dm me I can help
    Jan 282
  • Symantec O (1)
    Go out & meet people. Try to develop conversational skills.
    Its a numbers game, imo
    Jan 280
  • Microsoft AI_69
    28 yo black virgin? I’m having a hard time believing this is true
    Jan 287
    • Autodesk senator
      Why is this hard to believe?
      Jan 28
    • Finale Inventory huHG50
      He's a bit racist
      Jan 28
    • Autodesk senator
      Even if that is the case. The statement still makes no sense so I’m curious
      Jan 28
    • Finale Inventory huHG50
      Guessing he thinks black = big penis = easy to get sex. Seen another guy comment that he has that advantage because he's black.
      Jan 28
    • Or he’s thinking black = player/promiscuous. Either way racist. After being called out he will say Black is just a description of the person and has nothing to do With his statement
      Jan 28
    • Microsoft AI_69
      OP is the same guy who was flexing earlier that he can get any girl bc he’s black! hence my initial comment. If it wasn’t implied, I was calling troll post
      Jan 28
    • Finale Inventory huHG50
      Damn, we were wrong, you weren't being racist. Didn't see the other post you were referencing.
      Jan 28
  • Google / Engbillyjeans
    Plus make sure you are straight before you start. Just saying, I notice you are driven by wanting a family instead of seeming to actually want a woman. Maybe what you really want is a man? Maybe not, just asking you to self reflect.
    Jan 283
    • TripAdvisor owlwise
      Wth?
      Jan 28
    • Yelp cray.cray
      OP
      Exactly. Wth?
      Jan 28
    • Microsoft ЯR
      OP, I think that's more like a candidate offer than a suggestion
      Jan 28
  • New b37
    Don't wait. I'm over 40 and am slowly accepting that the family I always wanted isn't going to happen.
    Jan 281
  • Google masteratbs
    Just drop the pants show them the D
    Jan 281
    • Facebook pndubs
      This is 100% the best way to repel women
      Jan 29
  • Oath jamoora
    Black as in color black or race
    Jan 282
    • Cognizant APIPM
      😆
      Jan 28
    • Symantec O (1)
      Racist grandpa
      Jan 28
  • Microsoft Dr. Root
    You're already blessed in the D game bruh ! You'll be fine.
    Jan 281
    • Facebook WKCV72
      Are you a dude?
      Jan 28
  • Intel fratboyceo
    When going on dates, try not to care too much. Gotta wean off the nice guy type since not giving a shit is the hottest thing since sliced bread in 2019
    Jan 290
  • Rubrik sadio
    BBC?
    Jan 281
  • Amazon wowhsks
    Hmu
    Jan 280
  • Google / EngBluths
    If you’re 180 and jacked, you’re starting on the right note. If not, join a gym.

    Go on as many first dates as you can with no expectations. Don’t even think about family right now. Just have fun
    Jan 280
  • eBay gwBK22
    I know a girl who might be interested. My coworker. She’s also black, very pretty and a good girl waiting for the right guy. She also LOVES kids. I think she’s like 25. Lives in NY though.
    Jan 281
  • Google / Engbillyjeans
    Get a dating coach. Plus get some friends... So maybe a friendship coach too. Don't do this alone without expert guidance dude... You will very quickly fizzle out and get depressed.
    Jan 281
  • Google tGtt04
    A number of dear friends were in a similar situation. The thing to do is to set up an online dating profile - one of the ones that uses your social network to find appropriate matches - and keep asking people out.

    Fair disclaimer: it is a ton of work. A ton. Most women won't respond, and even if they do, most first dates won't go anywhere. Also, women at this age are starting to avoid those without relationship experience.

    But the good news is that this is absolutely something you can work at and practice. Go for it!
    Feb 40
  • Microsoft BarFoo
    Hookers. Vegas.
    Jan 280
  • Amazon Melgizecci
    I was Virgin till 31. I did not even try to get good with girls till 28. Then I started to work out, go out and read books. Finally started to date a couple of times and finally got a girlfriend and married her.
    Jan 281
  • Yelp overmind
    Damn I'm underpaid. YOE? Watch some self help / pickup type YouTube channels to get in a healthy positive mindset and value yourself around women. Then hit tinder and go out to non tech events.
    Jan 281
  • You ain't busy, you ugly. Shiiit
    Feb 40
  • Microsoft afterall
    American virgin at 28? Or from somewhere else?
    Jan 280
  • Just find a regular person to date ..?
    Jan 280
  • Oath jamoora
    What’s your problem? You want to be nonvirgin or want a gf. They both are different things
    Jan 280
  • Amazon / EngB8BBB8B8
    What are you on the 1-10 scale?
    Jan 284
    • Yelp cray.cray
      OP
      I would say a 6
      Jan 28
    • Amazon / EngB8BBB8B8
      Self rate as 6.... uh oh
      Jan 28
    • Yelp cray.cray
      OP
      I'm very self conscious. So take that into account
      Jan 28
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      So basically a 4 for dating non black people. Might be a bit rough on the dating apps. Try to meet people thru friends. Good luck.
      Jan 29
  • Microsoft / EngLager
    Buy massage oil
    Feb 60
  • Amazon undertaker
    I was virgin till my child got 5 years old!!
    Jan 290
  • Amazon hadSexxo
    Troll post
    Jan 280
  • ViaSat / Designmark1650
    Learn to dance. Hit the clubs. Join a Meetup group.
    Jan 280
  • Microsoft sammkau
    Get some experience then. And really don't worry too much if you fuck it up a few times, everyone does. I would also recommend starting with something casual just so that you get to experience it and won't regret not doing so after you marry. Go to bars and clubs, open online dating, dance, go to meetups for group activities, and make a real honest effort to talk to women, do not procrastinate on this.
    Jan 280
  • New skdjdbd
    Hit the gym and track your calories
    Jan 280
  • You tell the them 240K... a year... 4K a week.
    Jan 280

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