I have been in a long distance relationship with a girl since 5 years now. Since the past 1 year I have been feeling that we don't connect on the same level and we have been having arguments on petty things such as should we buy 18k or 22k gold wedding band? Her family is awesome but I am having a lot of doubts if she is the one. I am just too scared to have the talk since I pretty much met all her relatives and they had nothing but love for me. They even gave me like little gifts as congratulations. Also I recently received an offer from Google and I think may be I can do better. Indian here. Guys/Gals I really need some advice. I enjoy being away from her more than being with her, but I feel sad about the fact that her brother who is married, keeps inviting me for lunch, dinner to make me feel part of the family. I am in a tough spot here. She was not the girl I had met and has changed a lot over the years and had gotten very irate. I have been patient with her to give her time but seems like things are just going worse and going down hill. It's her birthday tomorrow and I don't even feel like wishing her. Google TC - just an offer, not working there Base 150K Bonus 15% Sign On 55k 450k RSUs / 4 years. Current TC: 150 Edit: We started dating at the time when I did not have a job.So I don't think she or her family cares about me being a future Googler, in fact no one does. But if I were to break up and decide to get married in the future, it would most probably be an arranged or via some mutual link running through my family and may be then this Google thing comes into relevance. Not trying to be a dick here.
Get the fk out NOW! Or stay in the misery for the rest of ur life. GL
Just say "thank you, next"
Huh. That's harsh. You come across as very self centered. You don't just say "Thank you, next" to someone you've known for 5 years, not to mention her family who has been so nice to you.
How about. “Thank you, sorry .... (after 5 minutes) Next!”?
Why did you enter the relationship in the first place, and what made it keep going for the past 5 years? Is she your first?
GTFO of that now Also TC or GTFO Also welcome to Google!
Please update
Think about what advice you might give someone in the same situation. Do you think things will get better or worse after being married? Project out a bit and an answer may be clearer.
Let me offer one piece of advice from experience: Being at Google doesn't necessarily mean you can do better.
I do agree here. May be I phrased my sentence incorrectly. I agree that working at Google has no correlation to having a successful relationship.
Google badge is a рussy magnet
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Have you tried talking to her and solving the issue before nagging things are going down hill? There must be something really good about her for you to be in a relationship with her for 5 years! That’s a long time bro!! Think about it. What are the chances that the next one is not going to be the same? Also, the issues might look way too big coz you guys are in a long distance relationship. Just another perspective. Don’t take stupid decisions and talk to her!
I agree with @MoSaalah!!!! OP, maybe she is grumpy because she's stressed out by wedding planning, or from being so far away from her fiancee. Maybe she's having problems at work and needs help working through them. The first task of a serious relationship is to support each other in good times and bad, and that starts BEFORE marriage. I'm not implying that nothing is wrong, but you have to communicate thoroughly and properly before you call off a wedding because you argued over the purity of your wedding ring gold (you're both wrong, choose platinum. It's sturdier). You'll have a lot of problems in EVERY relationship, so running away at the first sign of strife will isolate you in the long run. As an aside, it's sad that you seem to think Google represents a step up from a lifelong companion. It's not. Best of luck, OP.
Get out, it’s not going to get any better
It will end like the climax of War and Peace. OP is Pierre, and his girlfriend is Helene; her father is Vasily.