Are kids worth it?
I'm bisexual but primarily attracted to men and as I grow older and see my peers having kids, it makes me like there is a void I need to fill. Adopting would be very hard for a gay person and I'm wondering if the stigma associated with surrogacy is worth it. To those who have kids, do you find them worth it?
So curious about “mostly gay”. What stigma is there with surrogacy?
Not necessarily surrogacy itself. Surrogacy with a gay parent. I don't want my child to be bullied in school and stuff because his/her parent couldn't have a traditional male-female pregnancy.
What is “mostly” gay?
I think OP can also work with macho women.
Yes, it’s a lot of work but the love they show towards you makes your life feel worthwhile. My kids are still young though, don’t know if they will end up hating me as teenagers and how I’ll feel about them then.
“Mostly” threw me off. Watch out for this guy
Sorry you feel that way. What I meant is that I'm actually bisexual with a 70:30 attraction to men:women.
Gotcha! Makes sense now
If you have any doubts, don't do it, you will have to sacrifice everything in your life, so you have to be sure. And yes, I love my children so that's how I can survive now that live is exclusively work and take care of them
I've been told most people that have kids aren't 100% doubt-free. Everyone has reservations. Where to draw the line -- when too many reservations should equate to not having kids -- is a very personal decision. But people have kids with reservations all the time I'm told.
Having kids is 100% worth it for people 100% ready to have kids.
What is to be ready? I am a father and it just come and you do your best. I am still at the same company, every day i go to work... nothing has changed just sometimes i miss a holiday :)
That's because the kid has a part-time dad and a full-time mom
I'm technically bisexual but like 70% attracted to men and 30% to women. So I just think of it as mostly gay.
30% seems like plenty to knock someone up...
I have slept with women before. That is not the problem. The problem is I can't stay with a woman long enough to raise kids in a family because my primary attraction is to men. And I don't think it's right to knock up a woman with the only intention of making her a baby mama.
No if you will be mostly a parent.
It's a deep question. It's a biological-phychological drive. What do you ultimately work for/earn for? In early stages of life , it to make parents happy. In middle part of life it's to impress friend circle of get validation. What after that? You children become the proxy for you...and you get indirect validation from them...from society
Sorry for all the typos :)
Gay people adopt all the time.
They go through a lot of hoops and back and forth to. Most adoption agencies are not willing to give a child to gay parents. Not to mention most of them are religiously affiliated.
The adoption process is a lot of heartbreak and back and forth no matter who you are if you go through the foster system. Otherwise, it'll cost you about $30-50K to private adopt.