Being African-like in the U.S. -- MegaHard Difficulty

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It is bad. First I began regularly attending the tech talk meetups. Then the board game meetups. I've recently bought a bunch of tailored shirts and pressed suit coats and designer cardigans from Nordstrom and other similar places. I rented a sportscar, I went to a bunch of different places, talked about the surroundings, I imagined what it is that they would enjoy talking about, tried talking about those things. Had a few pretty good conversations with some. But then I get no phone numbers. No Instagram handles. No Twitter handles. Not even their Facebooks or email addresses. Nothing.

Why me?

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  • McAfee JohnMcPee
    You are playing on Medium difficulty bigboi.

    Try being an Indian male in the Bay Area.
    Feb 24
    • LexisNexis Risk Solutions XgsJva6
      Be ready for the Eurasian cry! 😂
      Feb 2
    • Facebook wcat
      😂
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Not sure what your talking about. They have it easy.
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Full of bullshite.
      Feb 2
  • Autodesk aOAG07
    Maybe don’t rent a fucking car and show up in suits like you’re going to court.
    Feb 20
  • Dropbox 99+
    Too bad you're not Indian, those guys are swimming in poon.
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      We're fucking stuck on hard mode.
      Feb 2
  • Microsoft Larry Pаge
    This just makes me wanna give out all my social network handles to you, all at once. Few more sentences, and I'll add my SSN too. No conversations needed.
    Feb 23
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Because you're of the more desired ethnicities?
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft Larry Pаge
      What are those? Give me the full list please
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Every other damn ethnicity.
      Feb 2
  • Lyft coolmojo
    This guy is a troll...I’m black in tech. I make over 350k TC and have zero problems getting women from any racial background. I’m pretty sure this guy is not even black and he just bullshittin for attention. Why? I’m not sure...probably bored. The facts are most well educated black professional men that are semi attractive are super desired. Trust me on that.
    Feb 23
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      And how do you conduct this magic? YOU are the one who's lying.
      Feb 2
    • Netflix vUhw26
      OP, could it be because he’s at lyft and you’re at a company no one has heard of!
      Feb 2
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Yeah everything you just said is utterly incorrect mojo
      Feb 3
  • Amazon Izzypop
    Oh man. The problem isn’t that you are black for fuck’s sake. It’s because you have no game. Renting sports cars and expecting women to hang all over you like a freaking TV commercial? Get real.
    Feb 28
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      As I mentioned before, I've already done all of that.
      Feb 2
    • Amazon Izzypop
      Omg, you miss the point. I’m saying that’s exactly how to NOT get women. If you think you need to rent a sports car or wear fancy clothes to get women you have NO game. Zero.
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      I've done all of the other stuff. Been witty, humorous, talked about how people can make an impact, dogs, all that. Why tf does it matter?
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft am sjbg
      My friend has massive game and his nice clothes do help him stand out actually. This is in Seattle where there’s zero style or fashion.
      Feb 2
    • Amazon Izzypop
      Fair point about Seattle having slovenly fashion. Agreed that clothes can definitely help, though I would still say the biggest help there is making yourself feel more confident. If the inner game is missing, it doesn’t matter how you dress up a turd.
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft am sjbg
      Yes. Clothes are useless without game. With game everything else is just a bonus.

      Source: I have no game.
      Feb 2
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Do people actually believe "game" works? It barely moves the needle in terms of attraction. This has been shown repeatedly to hell and back through many experiments. OP has dark skin and features that deviate from the traditional attractive male, ergo dating will be hard, unless he's uber Rich

      That being said I think the only real hope for OP is through familiarity. The more someone sees you they will get used to you and find you more attractive. good luck
      Feb 3
    • Microsoft
      NoSugar

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      NoSugarmore
      Don’t listen to any of this advice. All of it is focused on you, if you want to connect with women then focus on them first and provide a quality interaction. Women are people too and they don’t just care about money. They want to laugh not be forced into a situation where you’re being humorous for them. And they don’t all necessarily want to talk about dogs or people making an impact (tho those are pretty awesome small talk conversations).

      Just like at work, or with male friends, you need to be authentic and talk about the things you like. And talk to women about the things they like and try to get phone numbers from the people you connect with. Don’t just try to connect with anyone and everyone. People hate that, they want to feel special and seen.
      Feb 3
  • Microsoft BcrX06
    Feb 20
  • Netflix vUhw26
    Oh man this guy again
    Feb 20
  • Apple julB03
    What???
    Feb 20
  • New druggs
    That’s because you live in SF or Seattle
    1) there no women there
    2) the ones there can hold out for millionaires
    3) mostly white women

    The best solution is to NYC, maybe ATL since you are black
    Feb 23
  • Walmart.com s2a7
    Dude why do you need fb, Twitter, insta? Why in such a hurry ? Why the suits and the car? You seem to have a very cliched idea of women and how to impress them. Impress them with wit, humor and intelligence. If you don't have these, then cultivate. Talk sense, be romantic from the inside.
    Feb 24
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      Aready did that. Talked about some of the finer perspectives of life and making an impact on the world. They pretended as if I gagged in their face. But when a white guy with a beard does worse, then it's alright.
      Why oh why is this always happening to me?
      Feb 2
    • Intel intel
      What race(s) of women are you pursuing
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      All.
      Feb 2
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      OP
      If I give you actual facts, and you respond with "you don't quite understand", you are clearly having difficulty processing facts, and you are responding with no logic nor reason.

      I said I followed that advice. I gave you the accounts of how I followed that advice.
      Feb 3
  • African like != African American like

    And only gold diggers respond to $
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Oh really. Prick.
      Feb 2
  • IBM apu
    You’re trying too hard.
    Feb 20
  • Zillow Group Sr. Troll
    Just leeetcode bro
    Feb 20
  • Autodesk aOAG07
    Lol
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      OP
      You don't know what it's like to become more skilled at this stuff and STILL get disenfranchised. Not funny, jerk.
      Feb 2
  • Apple HumanDoing
    Go to a black nightclub on a Friday or Saturday night.
    Feb 20
  • People judge you harsher if you are really dark.....it doesnt even matter what the ethnic makeup is...more superficial with skin color. Even blacks discriminate against really dark people.
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      Usually true. I've been working to change that.
      Feb 2
  • HCL / Otherjstwrkhere
    What's African-like ? Do you mean black?
    Feb 21
    • Salesforce :w!
      Like Eminem, Rachel Dolezal, Shawn King
      Feb 2
  • I thought you are in demand
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      OP
      I do not understand what the hell this message is supposed to convey. You got that notion from the top of a cat or some other bullshite.
      Feb 2
  • Tektronix / Sales
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    BlueBerdmore
    Sounds like you need a wing man to review your game and help you.
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      Didn't work.
      Feb 2
  • Facebook wcat
    Which car did you rent?
    Feb 20
  • Intel intel
    Don’t ask for a Facebook or twitter handle lmao
    Feb 20
  • Oath / MgmtAtinlay
    The struggle is real
    Feb 20
  • Microsoft am sjbg
    I’m in the same boat. Most women in the US view African or African like men as not relationship material. Maybe a fling at best but only if you’re very fit.

    Move to LA. The diversity there is awesome and women still have to compete for men there.
    Feb 22
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      I will try. Problem is, there are very few engineering offices there. Just Oculus, Tinder, and Amazon. Not going to consider Snapchat due to all the layoffs.
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft am sjbg
      Google is there too. Many others. Snap is probably a bad idea for sure. Good luck! I’m trying to get there as well.
      Feb 2
  • Google danbb
    Did you grow up in a big city in Papua ? Also how did black people end up there ?
    Feb 71
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      Yes.
      Feb 7
  • Just be yourself buddy! Put yourself on Tinder if you’re looking for women.
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      -____-
      Already doing that...
      Feb 2
  • Apple bla$&
    Join a church ?
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      Been a part of one for several months.
      Feb 2
  • Microsoft goattit
    Are you ugly?
    Feb 21
    • Vertivco / Eng
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      I guess so.
      Feb 2

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