Given that women message first and are selective in who they message, I expected bumble to have less ghosting. I notice that most women initiate the conversation with a "Hi/Hey" and never respond back. Is this the same situation for a majority of the guys on Bumble? I am looking for a long term relationship and Bumble's intent filters for me haven't been so useful. It would be cool to understand 'match' to 'real date' ratios for men and women! I will go first. Guy here and I have had 22 interests that turned into 5 real world dates. 4 of them fizzled out after the first date and the other looks promising! TC 240K
I unmatch whenever the girls just says hi/hello
Actually marrying the girl I met off of bumble 🤙 Met 2 years ago. At the time though I had been 4 or 5 bumble dates prior to meeting my fiancée. It does feel like a number game though. I had tons of matches and I’m sure every girl on there has a few too. It just ends up being where do you rank in their current matches / convos on whether or not they want to go forward with an actual date.
Congratulations! From what I hear Bumble has changed significantly over the last year.
Product changes, or how people use the app?
From a guys point of view, the apps are definitely a numbers game. But the plus side is that as you grind through an endless stream of first dates, you have a real opportunity to make yourself into a charming and confident person through practice and feedback. These skills apply in non-app situations. My app experiences went from frustrating and confusing to consistently fun, and then I met my now wife in a chance encounter offline.
Look at it from a sales & marketing perspective: If she is pretty attractive, she might be matching with over 30 guys at any given time. I’ve seen some girl’s bumble match list and it’s insane. For ladies like my coworker, it’s a part time job for them to stay on top of all that, especially if they’re also on okcupid, coffee Meets Bagel, The League, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Now add in their full time careers, family, friends, and “me-time”, you can see how it’s super easy for them to leave you at “hey”. What that means for us guys is the goal is to have an exceptional bio, and exceptional pics (quality, subject matter) so that they want to learn more about your brand. That said, for relationships, I’d recommend Coffee Meets Bagel over Bumble. Good luck!
Don't forget exceptional genes too.
Any app's conversion to LTR depends on your branding, marketing, your intent and how you screen your real life dates. It's a matter of knowing your standards and what you're willing to compromise. Can't be too picky too and complain while you're single.
Women’s numbers can’t compare to men’s numbers by a long shot for even a 6... Forget the modest estimate somebody gave about... 30 is a joke. Easily 300 messages a day and more. And if you’re trying to date higher then it gets even worse. They message because the learning algo behind the app will de prioritize them if they don’t. You have to have mad engagement skills and be able to demonstrated value before you even start messaging. There are some YouTube videos that you might find helpful. I also find Mystery’s book useful. There should be some books focusing on online dating too. That being said I think Bumble is shit and you have to do the requisite grind and growth to find a high value woman.
I feel you bro. But TC or GTFO!
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