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Can female supervisor be sexist against female reporters?

Google xiao22
Oct 26

My manager treated me super harsh very personally. I think I’m a tough girl, but she’s still made me cried at work for 3times in the first 5 months. I don’t know if it’s a nationality thing, or a gender thing, or age?
Soooooooo gross.

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  • Bloomberg JIRASlayer
    It’s a personality thing. It’s not always about racism, sexism, etc
    Oct 266
    • Google xiao22
      OP
      She started that on me since the first week she became my manager.
      Oct 26
    • Microsoft / EngBadNews
      Get back at her. That’s what bullies expect.
      For a better result, get back at her disproportionately.
      Don’t be afraid of getting fired. That most likely won’t happen, and if it does you will escape a very toxic work environment.
      Oct 26
    • Amazon / Data
      Insomzonia

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      I’m the reason you’re here.
      Insomzoniamore
      “Get back at her disproportionately.” You win.
      Oct 26
    • Pure Storage vyFi37
      In other words “no”...
      Oct 26
    • Amazon P6831
      “Hi, I’m a white guy in tech. I have no idea who your boss is or what they said, but I know that race and gender have nothing to do with it— and not just because I find those topics uncomfortable. Now that that’s taken care of, please let me sniff your shoes 😤👠😫🤫 .”
      Oct 27
    • Google xiao22
      OP
      En. I never thought these race or gender thing will happen at work neither. But when it happens, it’s really hard to get support. :(. I wish I was a white guy, people may treat me differently in tech area.
      Oct 29
  • Microsoft -+-+-+-
    Girl here. For some reason (perhaps just not enough sample data for proper stats), but I've had more negative experience with females during interviews or while at work. They seem to take any disagreement personally, and it's harder to use any logic after this happens.
    Oct 261
    • Quora thebumble
      Appreciate someone sharing their thoughts fearlessly even if it's for 1% of the people in question. These days people look with triple filters for perceived put downs. I wonder how the above would have read without "Girl here".
      Oct 26
  • Accenture pJwc45
    No surprise, i seen many Indian girls/women in very hard to work , they r arrogant and stupid sexists , egocentric thinking they r super smart.
    Oct 262
  • Microsoft / EngTronkator
    It's very common. It's the I got it hard so now that I'm in charge I'm making sure you suffer like me syndrome.
    Or could also be the I'm good and you are not as good, so if I give you good rewards it will undermine our whole minority group syndrome
    Oct 260
  • LinkedIn / EngINittoWin
    First of all stand up to her. Second report her. Third leave. Fourth don't let anyone at work ever catch you crying unfortunately it will reflect poorly on you
    Oct 260
  • Facebook supichai
    Tell your race and your manager race
    Oct 276
    • Google xiao22
      OP
      My manager is Indian. Asian.
      Oct 28
    • Facebook supichai
      You should change the job. Easiest thing to do.
      Oct 29
    • Facebook supichai
      One more thing, how much better looking and hot are you compared to her?
      Oct 29
    • Google xiao22
      OP
      hmmmmm.... she’s middle aged.... I don’t always wear hoodies. ... yes, I should get another job. Does Facebook still hiring?
      Oct 29
    • Facebook supichai
      Yes lots of them. I am hiring too. Please apply.
      Oct 29
    • Facebook supichai
      It could simply be that you have something that threatens her and she needs to put you down.
      Oct 29
  • I think you are assuming way too many genders here!
    Oct 260
  • Facebook supichai
    THIS. Many metoo situations are work problems and politics but due to different gender get portrayed as sexual. The Uber lady post pointed to a corrosive office culture more than sexual stuff.
    Oct 271
    • Microsoft gfba68
      I do not think that is the case
      Oct 27
  • Prosper
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    My middle aged woman manager constantly undermines anyone who knows anything more than her... and all she knows is to make the most useless PowerPoint presentations. But upper management loves such middle management women because they’re non-threatening to upper management and perfectly opaque middle layer so the people under it just remain minions and stay down
    Nov 110
  • Nextdoor hLoz28
    Yes. Much like AvenueQ would say, we can all be sexist/mysoginist, racist, etc regardless or our own gender or race. We're all raised to think of women a certain way and I think that translates to internalized mysoginy in women sometimes too. I know I've had to unlearn things as I've gotten older. If you're looking for a new job by any chance, I'm always happy to chat! My manager at Nextdoor is super great and I feel positively about the culture overall.
    Nov 100
  • Intel babubhatt
    Yes. In this day and age, women can be anything they want to be 😆
    Nov 10
  • Accenture pJwc45
    Race issues
    Oct 290
  • Facebook supichai
    It probably is a combination of race, gender and age.
    Oct 290
  • General Motors 🍺o🍺
    Skip level or switch teams?
    Oct 260
  • Microsoft gfba68
    yes
    Oct 260
  • Accenture pJwc45
    Is she from India
    Oct 260
  • eBay
    mDBW53

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    mDBW53more
    Anyone can be sexist. Not sure why her making you cry is gross though.
    Oct 260
  • MapR Technologies v5gfrj6
    That's a red flag regardless of gender. Do not try to rationalize... make sure your leadership and HR knows and ask for a change. Btw... write down the facts as they happened dispassionately. Separate your emotions from her words. She said x. It felt like y. I felt z. I said w.
    Oct 260

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