Hello Everyone, I m regular follower of relationships topic and many interesting topics and experience. I m very confusing state and wanted know your thoughts and experiences I m happily married man with wife and daughter. My daughter age is 4.7 years. We decided to wait for few years for second kid as we are both working in 2013. We recently moved to SFO and my wife is not working here. I asked my wife to prepare for second kid. But my wife don’t want second kid and she is little bit worried to raise two kids. but I have been convincing her for second kid as I m bit worried by my daughter future without siblings( blood relation). Especially once we become old, we may not able to help her in anyway, emotionally and personally. With second kid 🧒👶both will have good life and can be help each other whenever needed. What do you guys think ? Am I thinking in right direction ?. We are financially settling now and may take few years to clear home loan..etc. My age is 31, my wife age is 28years. Could you please help me with your inputs or experience or suggestions? TC : 220k+
Cousins can help too or a spouse. Chill 😎
Ur daughter should be a strong independent woman 👩🏿 who don’t need no help! 🙂
Wife's tc and yoe?
She is not working now.
I am a single child and desperately wanted a sibling. To have someone who’s always got your back when you’re old. But if your wife doesn’t want to, what are her concerns?
I have a brother, ultra competitive and pretty much hates me since most of my high school teachers, neighbors (perhaps other humans you meet along) told him that he under performed relative to me. I paid his college tuition, he lived at my apartment for free (including food, elec) until 2 months ago - he is 29 now + married instead saved all money and invested in his own property but hates me - we live in different countries :) Anecdotal but a true case
I have a brother who I barely talk to. No animosity, but just separate lives. Just because you have a sibling doesn't guarantee that you'll get along with them. My husband was an only child and is one of the most social people I know.
Why is your wife hesitant? Does she want to go back to work? Does she feel like the responsibility of raising a child falls mainly on hers? Is she worried about money? Or is one really enough for her? Maybe she's tired being at home and wants to have a life of her own again. You two are still fairly young so you still have a window even if you decide to delay having another kid.
Her sister is 8 years older to her.Her sister got married when my wife was 11 years old.She almost raised alone and didn’t feel alone anytime.She thinks there is no difference in having a sibling or alone.She wants to concentrate more on my daughter’s career and her own career.she thought that it is not possible concentrate on 2 kids.
Listen to your wife. She seems to have thought about this more than you.
Kids with siblings are in general more adjustable, having sharing attitude, have some one to play with when parents are busy. It's more fun. Said that it will be very busy, time will become the most precious thing.
that's a situation many young couples face where one wants second child and the other doesn't. I think it's good to have a sibling and as a parent good to have second child. If you are financially secure, you should go for it.
I am a single child and I turned out quite well. Don't have a second kid if your wife isn't onboard with that
I know lots of only children and they’re fine. Don’t listen to the armchair psychobabble
Have more than 2, like at least 4. That way one can work the farm, the second can cook and clean the house, the third can take care of the grandchildren, and the fourth can become a doctor or a lawyer and bring money to the family.
That's a freaking awesome logic 😂
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Definitely go for two so that when you guys are gone they are there for each other.
Would adopting a kid be a good option? Lot of early baby troubles and cost can be avoided