Dating while Separated

Aug 25, 2018 25 Comments

Hi,

I’ve been separated from my wife for a year and will divorce her next year. Ladies, would you have a problem dating a guy who is separated but isn’t divorced. What’s your relationship status?

Edit: my bad, I *will* divorce her, not *probably*. The divorce proceedings haven’t begun yet but soon will.

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  • Amazon Northman
    "Will probably divorce" - wtf. A year and a half and you still don't know?? Why would anybody want to date you in that case? When legal proceedings are in process and you know WTF you are doing seems like a reasonable time to start dating.
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • Amazon Insomzonia
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • Facebook / Design CuteRibbon
    Get a divorce, then we can have this conversation.
    Aug 25, 2018 4
    • OP
      Lol
      Aug 25, 2018
    • New SSmart
      This !!! Guy here, I was in the same situation and most of the girls I went on dates with had this response ... Especially Indian girls ...
      Aug 25, 2018
    • OP
      Where there any Indian girls who wanted a NSA relationship?
      Aug 25, 2018
    • New SSmart
      Nope, none that I met on dating apps
      Aug 26, 2018
  • eBay Buzzard
    I think I would have a problem if I were looking for a long term relationship. Like, is it a trial separation? Is the wife still wanting to work it out? Are there children involved.

    If just fun dating I would not have an issue.

    I am a married female.
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • Sidebar: if your wife is hot are you willing to set me up with? Thanks
    Aug 25, 2018 2
    • OP
      No she isn’t hot. She is also bat shit crazy. Would you still like me to set you up with her??
      Aug 25, 2018
    • Sure but I'm not that excited anymore :( now I just want to buy her 🍷 and see how bat shit crazy she is. :D
      Aug 25, 2018
  • LinkedIn / Eng LinkedIn?
    TC or GTFO
    Aug 25, 2018 2
    • Microsoft / Eng UHasHerpes
      No, just gtfo.
      Aug 25, 2018
    • OP
      @UHasHerpes I think you should. I have every right to stay
      Aug 25, 2018
  • eBay / Data justno
    If you just want to date and be out there, you're after a rebound, keeping it casual.. if that's clear, by being an adult, i accept life is messy and being separated but not divorced is a thing. I would date you but i would not take you seriously. If we'd really hit it off, i'd expect you to file for divorce. This can end up in two ways: you do get a divorce, or you use me to get through this rough patch with your wife. It's the new thing vs. years of history. Past matters, so it often wins. That is why anyone who'd date you, would prefer a clean slate. And you should, too.
    Aug 26, 2018 2
    • OP
      What if the divorce proceedings began? Would that make a difference?
      Aug 27, 2018
    • eBay / Data justno
      It does give out the right message yes.
      Aug 27, 2018
  • Google / Mktg QuadLovin
    Switch and place the lady in your situation who says the same thing to you. Would you date her?
    Aug 25, 2018 0
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    MsMjolnirmore
    The "probably" would be the issue for me, too. I don't need nor want a commitment, but I do prefer a guy who is decisive and forward thinking. Wishywashyness is a turnoff.
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • Amgen Fin4eng
    The dating while separated isn't the problem. It's the "probably" will divorce. That means you aren't separated and just waiting for the time period to divorce but still in a semi-committed relationship.

    It wouldn't be fair to the girl or your current wife.
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • Cisco Fhcskbt
    No I don’t want a man with all that baggage tbh
    Aug 25, 2018 0
  • eBay Autosux
    If you just want to shack, get paid service. Why are u looking to date with a “probable” wife still in play.
    Aug 25, 2018 1
    • OP
      Edited the question. I will divorce the wife, not probably. It’s just that the divorce proceedings haven’t begun yet.
      Aug 25, 2018
  • Amazon Northman
    My suggestion - get that legal process going ASAP. "We have been separated for over a year and legal divorce is in process now, but will take some time to finalize" is an okay story for many separated and/or divorced women. "We are living apart and mean to file those papers real soon now" sounds like you are trialing this whole separation thing out and may change your mind. The vast majority of women will be turned off by the facts you have outlined.
    Aug 26, 2018 0
  • Salesforce
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    I wouldn't risk it. What if you reconcile? It's good for you but not for my emotions!
    Aug 26, 2018 0

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