I was in a relationship with a very sweet person for almost an year, we broke up like few months ago, it was totally my fault, I ignored her and took her for granted while she was completely into me, partly my shitty wlb to blame . Anyway got some breather and i tried reaching out realizing my mistake and I got to know that she is getting engaged with another guy, I feel completely shattered and not able to move on. Any tips how to come out of this slump faster. TC: 300k Yoe: 10
Tinder. Just kidding that'll make it worse. I recommend not talking to her again as it will cause more pain and start trying to find someone else. Or get higher TC. Lol
I agree it will cause more pain to try to talk to her or hoping if you could salvage it. You need to think about something else. Go out with friends/dates more
For real, tinder was the easiest way to get over my breakup. We were together 4 years and the breakup crushed me. But getting back in the saddle and going out for a lot of hookups really helped me get over my ex.
Engaged is not the same as married. She’s still single until legally married. Meet her for coffee, tell her how you feel. If she’s in to you, she’ll break off the engagement. If you try you have 50/50 chances of success, if you don’t it’s 0%. All the best.
Meditate, read, see a therapist, start a new hobby.
Get a group of your friends and take a mini vacation. You prolly have enough tc and savings to splurge once and try to enjoy it.
Crash the wedding
Maybe talk to her and see? Maybe she moved on just to forget you? In a way it might be wrong to talk to her as you would be disturbing her, but what if she reconsiders you once she notice you changed? It's life, we can not live in regrets. Better to try and fail rather live in regrets. If not, Time heals everything. Make yourself busy for a few months, create new hobbies, increase your social life.
I did, she said it’s too late as the families are involved now. She also said she would have taken me back if she didn’t commit to the other guy. I am trying to keep my self real busy.. enrolled into new classes .. working out . It’s been like 4 months since this happened but honestly I am still kind of wreck, tears rolling out at random places .. my therapist said I am in depression and should take medication which I am avoiding
You got to intervene. Like in Hollywood romcoms, we need happy ending!
have you ever bought anything on ebay? everyday there are lots of auctions and when i lose one, there are still pages and pages of the same thing being sold. go buy stuff on ebay and see how it applies to relationships
How long ago was the breakup? If it’s four months like you seem to imply above, man that’s fast to get engaged. Ask her if her decision is final, and if it is, cut all contact. Don’t try to be friends and shit. Do something for yourself like traveling the world for six months or something. Come back with a new perspective.
“If it’s four months like you seem to imply above, man that’s fast to get engaged.” Most likely girl went through arranged marriage. OP mentioned “traditions”.
Sounds like it. Tough luck for OP then. It’s a mess either way. Deal with it I guess.
If she could move on easily, find a rebound n get engaged as well then may be she was not into you that much. Don’t sweat much as there r a million fish in the sea
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