Me too movement sounds great for women’s right. However, did you experience your female boss use her gender and color advantage to climb corporate ladder? And you get abused and bullied by her? Sisters, let’s get these wolf in sheep skin in spot light. Let’s share and discuss how we push them into justice!
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- Apple &02bgpOPEven though is not enough women in leadership, that make this worse-Female leadership is not there to protect female employees. They took advantage for their “career growth” on the expense of other female employees!
- Well, I think both males and females have the same normal distribution for being ethical and nice. The human rights violation you witness could very well have been at the hands of a male boss. It's not entirely right to blame the entire gender for actions of a few. I have seen females in leadership helping out other females. You happened to see the bullies. Also, nothing mandates a female leader to protect females. In a perfect world, yeah, you expect encouragement in some form, but the world ain't fair!
- Yes, I read it and only wanted to convey that the boss's gender is not a key factor here. "Never Wrestle with a Pig. You Both Get Dirty and the Pig Likes It" The best and easiest option is to simply walk away, instead of wasting energy and time in a toxic environment. And that would have been an advice for both male and female bosses.
- I have had a shitty female boss who caused me years of trauma. I had to seek therapy for it and I still get nightmares about it. I'm female as well.
But also some of the most supportive professional contacts I've met are women.
I feel that women are inherently intuitive creatures. We can feel the emotions of the person in front of us. It's hard to lie to us. So we also pick up very strongly on negative (and positive) emotions. When women hate each other, they know it. I think you just need to get away from that manager because nothing good might come out of it.
If you need to pm, please do.
- Great point. Some women just horrible a queen bee, she loves to flirt with her guys. Or race discrimination?
- Is your boss white and you Chinese?
It could be racial discrimination or more like an innate fear that you are smarter and more competent than her. Hence her behavior.
But from what I hear this seems to be a common issue with women on the same team (ie hyper competitive behavior).
- How about you have a heart to heart conversation about this? Bring in some specific examples and facts to illustrate your point so she can’t wriggle out of it.
She can’t fire you for having a simple conversation. Best case scenario she’ll gain newfound respect for you, worse case she’ll at least try to have better behavior.
- No, being direct and talking about problems directly is valued in this culture.
What are your other options? Complain to HR? HR is always on the manager’s side, that’ll probably bite you in the ass. Complain to your boss’s boss? Again will bite you in the ass, your boss’s boss will just go to her asking about all the stuff you just complained about.
If you can’t bring up issues directly you will always fail at relationships and work.Apr 3 3
- Why do women in power abuse other women? Something I’ve never understood. If anything you should be helping each other out
- Sizmek prwriemoreYes. Every single female boss I have had in my career has been a complete cu*nt whereas my male bosses did more to actually help me grow in my career.
And every time I would tell myself nah, she’ll be like a mentor and will be a role model. Nope.
Now my one rule is to never take a job where my manager is a woman. No matter how perfect of a match the role might be, it’s a no for me.
- Amazon VaporeonCan't tell if this is a joke. I personally have never had a female manager. With that being said: girls put each other down, while women lift each other up. I'm sorry you have to deal with a terrible boss. Maybe she's terrible because of her personality and not because of her gender? I would never say all male bosses are terrible over one bad male boss...
- Amazon pduwGaI have with a female manger who's similar in age. I had the feeling that she's competing with me and always puts me down. I didn't want to deal with her (she was also brand new people manger who used to be a TPM), so I changed team. I admit I was bitter about the experience but my new team was so much better so life moves on. Sorry that you're going through this.
- A lot of us are too vulnerable as a female. However, we should standup for our right. While female bosses supposed the best resource for female professionals seek for support, but some of them really nasty. They took the advantage and turn around to abuse female employees instead. And they protected male co-workers harassment or even violent. Did you experience these?