Do you text every day after the first date if you really liked her?

Facebook dodant
May 28 58 Comments

I went on a date with this guy last week, and we had a great time. We spent three hours walking around the down and chatting. He walked me to the car, and said that he’d like to hang out again and hugged me.

When I got home, he messaged me that it was nice to meet me in person and he does hope to see me again soon and we exchanged numbers (We were talking in an app)

He then hasn’t texted me the next two days. He’s a doctor and he did say that he’s on call this long weekend that he has to work day and night.

While we could schedule the second date later, i thought he would’ve texted me asking how my long weekend was and stuff. (I know I could also text him first, but that’s not what I am asking!)

Guys, do you usually text a girl every day between the first and the second date if you really liked her, or am I thinking too much?

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  • New / Eng Freefolk❄️
    Doctor + Facebook Engineer = Badass TC
    May 28 5
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      I went out with him once haha 😂
      May 28
    • New / Eng Freefolk❄️
      In the Valley, you gotta think long-term ;)
      May 28
    • New / Eng Freefolk❄️
      Joking aside, nope 2-3 times a week should be enough. He's busy saving lives for crying out loud
      May 28
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      Thanks for a comment!
      May 28
    • Autodesk FzD73g
      I’m dating a doc now, and rest assured they have no time for texting at work, especially if on call, and come home and pass out for the next 12 hours after a overnight call. Don’t take it personally @fb.
      May 28
  • Amazon / Eng YcUP73
    You aren’t pretty enough
    May 28 12
    • Airbnb liFu43
      Lol, well my cash comp isn't overvalued
      May 28
    • Amazon / Eng YcUP73
      Yeah and my RSU tippled since I’ve had it so enjoy your 20 k extra base
      May 28
    • Indeed / Eng
      dxsiChk

      Indeed Eng

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      Cause I am still waiting for my GC and it’s weird to retire at 40??

      And I really enjoy what I do 🤷🏻‍♂️😁
      May 28
    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      You both sound like 5 year olds arguing.
      May 28
    • Google Bjkooohhb
      Everyone settle down here
      May 29
  • Pure Storage lololol012
    if a guy realli likes a girl, he would have texted no matter how busy he is
    May 28 2
    • Google YAPTRF
      Meh not necessarily true.

      He might like her so much that he wants to text her when he has time to think
      May 28
    • Google Bjkooohhb
      Truth
      May 29
  • Facebook dodant
    OP
    I’m surprised that this post is on fire 😂 I’ll probably just text him this evening.
    May 28 5
    • New / Eng Freefolk❄️
      Great. Remember to invite us to the wedding 😂
      May 28
    • New / Eng
      AutoBots🚘

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      So how did it go? Do ask Blind before picking your children's name
      May 31
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      I texted, he texted and then we went out on the second date! 😁
      Jun 2
    • New / R&D
      Raptors🦖

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      Someday do tell him how Blind is rooting for this relationship?
      Jun 2
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      Hahaha I know — i do owe Blind that!!!
      Jun 2
  • From the TV shows I’ve seen im gonna say he’s just busy. If I were you I’d ask him how his on-call weekend was and keep my expectations to the minimum. He’s probably just exhausted and catching up on sleep.
    May 28 10
    • Done and done. What was half of his is now mine.
      May 29
    • Amazon echo $?
      Some of the cutest marriages I’ve seen had witty exchanges between spouses. It works for some but not others. Just a word of caution.
      May 30
    • New
      MIT_Grad

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      What is going on here?
      Jun 2
    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      @echo: true. She’s playing hard to get but I’m confident that with some patience and magic dust, I’ll win flosstoday over.

      @MIT_Grad: I’m flirting with a pretty girl on blind and working on meeting in real life 🤣
      Jun 2
    • New
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      Are you sure about JUUL labs?
      Jun 2
  • Keller Williams LxJB22
    Focus on you. Especially if dating someone with an all-encompassing career like medicine, you have to be busy and content in your own right. If he texts you tomorrow or you never hear from him again, let that have no bearing on you how see yourself. 🔥
    May 28 1
    • SAP / Consultant the101
      I second this
      May 28
  • Microsoft ccmbrwater
    Some guys enjoy adding a bit of suspense, especially if they read interest. Imagine how bigger of a hormone rush you'll get now as opposed to if you got a text next day. Either that or he was busy banging other chicks...
    May 28 0
  • Indeed / Eng
    dxsiChk

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    He doesn’t wanna appear creepy by over communicating. Specially after just one date.

    I would say, give it time, once he is really into you and you guys know more
    about one another the comms should go up as well :)
    May 28 0
  • Clover Health sinkinship
    Have you texted him and no response, or are you expecting him to initiate all communique?
    May 28 2
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      He texted me the next day of the first date to have fun in the city, but the conversation was short and neither he or I haven’t texted for another two days.
      May 28
    • Clover Health sinkinship
      Yeah I wouldn't read too much into that, especially if he mentioned having to work non-stop. That must be brutal.
      May 28
  • Revinate / Data JPQ
    No. No in& between texting. You can tell by your own comments that you are expecting too much out of it. Too much chance that the text convo won't go well, and you will flake on the second date.
    Also, dating is a disruption to our schedule. Honestly, sometimes you forgot that you went on a date with that person, because it's outside of the normal routine - even if your routine includes things like clubbing.
    May 28 2
    • Microsoft jPzm21
      If you really like someone, you remember everything about that date.
      May 28
    • Revinate / Data JPQ
      Uh. Only if you're a girl, or someone who thinks people should be prone to love at first sight.
      May 29
  • Google / Product callofwild
    Tech wlb and doctor wlb are quite different
    May 28 1
    • Facebook dodant
      OP
      Yeah, i can only imagine but i can’t also really imagine how busy they are 😂. he did have to take an urgent phone call during the first date because he was on-call.
      May 28
  • New / Eng
    🔥HODL🔥

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    He was the last to start texting, so responsibility falls on you.

    If you never start texting he can't know whether you're really interested or not.
    May 28 0
  • Nvidia civil
    Take it slow.
    May 28 0
  • Amazon echo $?
    I wouldn’t read too much into it. Doctors are busy but he didn’t set the right expectation. He should have said something like “can I text or call you in the next X days?” and then do so.

    The biggest fail I’ve seen with this is setting poor expectations and disappointing someone, causing them to read into potential causes.
    May 28 0
  • Universal Orlando Flying🛸
    Honestly, I don't buy into the whole "who texts first and most often." I only care if I message and you reply. If you ghost, I'm gone.
    May 30 0
  • PayPal theniceguy
    Don’t complicate this and send that text!
    May 28 0
  • Mentor Graphics FreeMind
    If he doesn't text in a week he's not interested.
    May 31 0
  • Facebook dodant
    OP
    Wow, thanks all for the helpful comment. Thanks a lot all 🙏 good night!
    May 28 0